Do people see you as an insensitive, rude & cold person?

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I believe people see me as a rather cold but polite person

Yes, I know that a lot of people do...especially the people who don't really know me.

Some do. Some don't.

Not really. It depends on how my day is going, really.

Sometimes people think it. If someone says that or tells me I just say its good to be bad.

When I was a kid and teen, yes. Probably still. I am not good with giving emotional support so people may see me as cold and uncaring. I just know to keep my mouth shut when I know someone is in need of emotional support. I just don't want to say the wrong thing. But people who know me see me as a good and caring person. My husband knows I mean no harm with what I say so he doesn't take what I say personally. He also knows I "don't mean it" when I say it.

My facial expressions are very static and I dislike group settings so I am sure some people have assumed I am antisocial and perhaps rude at times.Luckily,at work most of my socialization is on a one to one basis so while I usually don't talk in a group setting I do quite well in one to one settings,so at work ,at least ,people know my coldness or rudeness is usually contingent upon the social setting I happen to be in.

Some do, some don't.

I think so.

I frequently say the wrong thing when I try to carry on a conversation, so I have pretty much stopped trying.

I've been accused of that by various people including my parents but others think I'm sensitive, polite & friendly.

My enemies do. From their perspective, they're right.

Sometimes, though I suppose in some situations I could really use this to my advantage....but of course I am really not a cold person and don't like to be intentionally rude, but I also didn't like getting bullied as a kid so nowadays I don't try quite as hard never to come off like that as sometimes being rude right back to someone can make them back off.

I still want to go throw eggs and rotted vegtables at the damn liquor store I went to a couple days ago though that would likely be taking it too far. They had the damn price mismarked so I was trying to check the rest of my change and figure out how much I had since I also had to catch the bus...there was no one in line so I wasn't holding anyone up. But they where quite rude trying to rush me then I told them to wait cause I realized I might be short on bus change as was going to pay with my card(if they had some stupid 5 dollar minimum I would have just gotten a 6 pack rather than the pint)...but they're all like nope too late, and then rudely shoved my beer to the side. Made me mad so I just left and said this place sucks I would have stayed and demanded a refund but I was too angry and didn't want to do anything stupid. I should have just acted like I didn't care and calmly demanded a refund in a rather sarcastic manner. Either way i will gladly not go back to that one, there are plenty of others to choose from with actually helpful employees.

I'm sure most people see me as a polite and usually friendly person. "Please" and "Thank you" are actually a part of my vocabulary.
But a lot of NT people are very rude, but don't even realize it until someone points it out. And then their excuse is that they were having "a bad day". The very day someone pointed out their rudeness. People must be having a lot bad days, now.

the descriptors i get are aloof and reserved.

Is there an online site like 'Yelp' where you can review this store?

Lots of people do read those reviews, and detailing your experience could get people treated better at that place.

There have been certain people that I've known in my life who have said that I'm too sensitive. There was a time that I tried to rebel against that until I had my breakdown in 1998.