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Why...

Why does everyobdy call me the bad kind of weird,and that I'm annoying,immature,stupid,and crazy?

Why...

Why was I molested and raped?

Why...

Why can't people accept me as I am?

Why...

Why can't people look past my bad side,and try for my good side?

Why...

Why are people automatically repulsed by me?

Why...

Why did I get bullied and harrassed so much?

Why...

Why am I so ugly?

Why...

Why am I ME???



-SpaceCase

Well, I can't answer the first few, so I'll answer the last two.

Judging by your pictures, you are far from ugly.

And you are you because nobody else wanted the job.

In no sense are you ugly. I'm not an attractive bloke - I'm pretty huge and unfit, and I have tons of fat that shouldn't be there. Do I care? Do I balls. (And, if you were wondering, I'm not saying that because I'd like to hump you - well, I would, but that's beside the point.)

Persevere. Or commit suicide. But there are no second chances. Make the best of what you have.

Recovering from mistakes is my weak area - when I do this in public I need to find somewhere away from people to break down. But it will only make me stronger in the end.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself down and run at the world and the bastards who inhabit it. Be brave and true to the last. Because if you don't, no-one else will do it for you.

That was a Cod-Inspirational Broadcast from the Free Tequila Party.

I don't understand these kinds of things either.

And I'm not sure anybody else does.

For the first SIX: Because all people who do/say those things are worthless f***s that attack whatever they don't understand and should be burned alive. Oh... and because (from what I can tell) you're a female who refuses to just be a woman. Most NTs don't understand it, and some moreso look upon it with hate. All I can really say is fight back against the injustice.

Why are you ugly? Because you think you're ugly, that's the *ONLY* reason. I've looked at that thread with your pictures, and can safely say you've in that EXTREME minority that lets NATURAL beauty shine through, unlike the crowd who wears that pasty paint-y makeup crap. Really if I were in your shoes I'd be an outright narcissist; you've got more looks that you give yourself credit for.

Why are you YOU? Why am I me? Why did I have to go through most of that BS myself? We're different, plain and simple. Wish I had a more concrete answer for you, but I'm still trying to find one myself. ^_~

My presence on this site is rather sporadic and I don't know you too well, but based on all the posts I've read of yours so far I think you sound like a pretty cool person I think I know just what you are talking about. There are times I've felt awful about myself too (some people think of themselves as having low self-esteem; sometimes I've thought I have no self-esteem), that I'm not even comfortable in my own skin, and I sometimes feel quite ugly and weird (in the bad sense of the word) and I think sometimes people are repulsed by me as well; sometimes don't even like go out in public for those reasons. I'll bet there are lots of great things about you. Try to take some time and reflect on what those things are, and who you really are, and surround yourself with people who know you and appreciate you for who you really are and try to forget about the rest. Sometimes doing that can make you feel invincible. Chances are the people who do these things to you don't know you nearly well enough to make any sort of judgment on your character, and they're just being immature or shallow-especially if they bully you, harass you, call you names, and avoid you (and in the case of the second thing you mentioned, the person was just plain evil, a complete monster). Then they are the ones with a problem-not you!! I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are still a teenager, remember that it won't last forever. Teenagers tend to be a nasty, shallow bunch but this is their problem and their loss. It will get better as you get older. There is a good side and bad side to each person, and I think it is pretty rare that the bad side outweighs the good, so I'm sure there are a lot of good things about you and I hope people realize this! I bet there are people out there who do. When I'm around other people I just try to insulate myself as much as I can and try not to pay attention to them. Sometimes I just sort of even tell myself that anyone who would harass me or call me names or look at me funny or anything like that is full of it and I don't care what they think. Maybe that's a little overly aggressive or unhealthy or whatever, but it works. I really hope you start feeling better.

Because the person who did this to you is an evil bastard that I hope is rotting in prison right now.

For 3 years I was in a relationship with a girl who was raped at age 13 by her older sister's boyfriend. She had a very difficult time recovering from it and it was still negatively affecting her life years later when we were dating. She was an alcoholic and lost custody of her daughter because of it. Several times she told me she drank to forget what happened to her. She had trouble keeping jobs and was constantly in legal battles with her ex-husband due to stupid things she would do when she had her daughter like smoke pot in front of her. One time she left her daughter (6 years old at the time) home alone and spent the night at my apartment. I didn't know and felt horrible about it when I found out. It was like she couldn't stand it when things were going well and had to make sure there was always some kind of stress or crisis going on. I finally had to break up with her to save my own sanity.

It's important that you understand what happened to you WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!! Don't be afraid to ask for help recovering from this so that it won't negatively affect you in the future. Somehow you need to come to terms with it and get on with your life. And try to be happy

I saw this post and fell in love with it because I am always asking myself that question. Here are example sof what I ask myself with why:
Why was I sexually assaulted and 2 days later raped?
Why did it take 15 yrs of all this confusion and pain to get diagnosed with AS?
Why can't I be myself around everyone and not just give them one side of me?
Why can't I combine all these "sides" of me into one?
Why can't forget what has happened to me?
Why did those 2 men get off free?
Why do those two men get to go on with their lives as if nothing happened when they turned my life upside down?
Why can't I get that part of me that they stole when they did that to me?
Why can't I fully trust others?
Why does every man I've allowed in my life hurt me?


Thats some that came to mind...and no I'm not depressed...just wanted to vent..Thanks.

Sometimes you seem to dwell upon the horrors on your life.

Of course, in saying that, I become a hypocrite, because I dwell upon similar questions as well.

What is it about me that makes people only want to go a certain distance with potential friend/acquaintanceships with me? It seems that in social relationships, there is a cap that has been set by a supreme, omnescient being - a cap that seems to say, "this is the limit to which you can know this person."
I have experimented with being more active in social behavior. Initiating rather than rolling the dice.
I find that there are noticable differences, but they aren't as drastic as one would expect after getting lectured by my guidance counselor on how the only way to maintain friendships is to say hello to the person in question every time you see the person.
The way she talked about saying hello made it seem as if this simple act was life-or-death in keeping relationships.
But, that leads to the question, what will the other person think if I start to suddenly say hello to them before class starts? They'll think, "Oh. Aaron's aout of character. This is very weird". I think by saying hello to the person on this basis could harm more than hurt, especially if the person in question is a seasoned veteran in social observation... which most NTs are.

Sorry to hijack your thread. Basically I;m trying to illustrate how I ask these "why" questions.

Because their Neurotypical brains tell them not to accept anyone who is different. Pity them for their stupidity.



Because some nutcase werent where he should be at the moment: in a psychiatric hospital. If you know where he lives, hire someone to smash his balls

[QUOTE ]Why...

Why can't people accept me as I am? [/QUOTE]

Society wants everyone to live up to a set of stereotypes. Discard this, as standing out from the crowd is something positive. There is only one of you on this earth.



Probably because you have Asperger Syndrome, which is a higher level of intelligence. People with AS can be recognised by traits as: Not talking about the weather, being unique, intelligent and kind. Society wants you to be an as*hole, and treats everyone who isn't like they were one. Not your fault.



[Dave Chapelle Voice] Girl, You're HOT HOT HOT! [/Dave Chapelle Voice]




Because you're not, Janet, Michelle, Suzanne or whatever other blahblah who walks this earth.
You have dreams that are to be followed. That makes you YOU!

1. NTs very seldom can comprehend the concept that being different from them can be a good thing, let alone something that isn't bad.
2. I don't know the story behind that, so I'll go with the general response: because there are sick people in this world.
3. As you are is not like them, and not like them is different, and being different without being wrong could mean that they are wrong, a possibility they are afraid to face even subconciously.
4. People are easy targets when they're alone. I was bullied a lot while I was a loner. When I got to highschool, I got all the 'geek' groups to integrate and make a supergroup, and sheer force of numbers wiped bullying out. Stick with those who care about you, and they'll help make people leave you alone.
5. You shouldn't believe the insults the idiots fling, it isn't healthy.
6. You are you because if you weren't you, you would never be the girl we all know and love, and that would suck. If anyone ever says you'd be better off being someone you aren't, they are dead wrong. You should never give up who you are just to satisfy the mindless majority, because then there won't be anything left of you.

hate to sound harsh hear but that 'why am i so ugly' and the 'why are people repulsed by me' are merely attention seeking, i wont rise to it and give your ego the satisfaction of another person saying 'dont worry ur beautiful blah blah blah' everything else in that list is valid, but the ''ugly'' s**t is just caused by your own state of mind. You actual appearence means nothing to you, its a reflection of your inner self worth. so try and show yourself that you are, inside, a good person, and then you wont keep having these emo thoughs of OMGIMUGLY

1.You was raped?!?! NT bastards...
2.Cuz teh NT's worship MTV
3.MTV
4.MTV
5.MTV

Everyones problems ARE from MTV i need money so i can destroy MTV!! !! !

Well Garlic is in association with JML so its SEND NO MONEY NOW *insert dodgy flashing text*

Have you to had any professional counselling for the awful experiences you had??

I dont mean that in a derogatory way either. I'm quite rare as a male to have suffered similar bad experiences, and i left it 11 years since my worst attack to seek help.

What you went through is very hard to rationalise on your own. Without help the effects can end up ruling your life.

Aspiegurl89 you sound like you are still in a lot of pain from those few questions.

Your feelings on what happened are very very common amoungst people who have suffered similar attacks. And help is avaiable to help you understand and rationalise in your head so you can carry on with out constant pain.