ok i agree that men with aspergers have it harder.

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I really do keep her in my basement.

I didn't actually have her stuffed. Just cremated. I didn't know where else to put her. So, she is in my basement.

The one really creepy discussion that the first woman in the movie overheard between Norman Bates and his "mother" (shortly before the shower stabbing) sounded exactly like my mother.

Anyone outside the UK, Ireland and Crown Dependencies who wants to see the full episode, see here:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TpQEGrJG4s[/youtube]

Yes,to think I could woo a woman in a crowded bar is a pipe dream.I do agree about the risks in dating a co worker but I think for Aspies ,if you go about it the right way it might be the best way to go. Where else are you going to interact with a woman [depending on the job ,of course] where she gets to see the good qualities that you have?I don't think Aspie men make a good impression at a crowded bar.There are risks in dating a co worker but I think those risks are worth taking and you can likely minimize those risks if you go about it the right way.

Man, the deodorant part really cracked me up He just went just went full Mr. Bean with that. One quirk Richard needs to work with...

I think its even more than anxiety.

Aspie guy's know that they're only going to clique with that one odd girl they'll meet once every other year or two perhaps (ie. someone who can look past different means of expression, not 'read off the common script' socially, etc.). They also know that they quite often can't tell this girl by sheer looks, they also know that most attractive women have a shield up from getting hit on to where if the guy was going to take full responsibility for his dating he'd be dating hundreds to find one right catch. In other words the guy can either sit out and keep his fingers crossed or chase his own tail until he's ready to throw up.

Simply put the numbers just go haywire (IMHO certain things like dating up to a couple hundred women to find one relationship is requesting something superhuman) and traditional means stops working for us right about there.

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Dude you are smart!

a lot of people do meet partners at work. i think it's just extra-important to make sure that a particular female is receptive to dating to avoid discomfort or notions of harassment.

what i'm also trying to convey is the fact that for some (many?) women, it will not matter how suave or socially lubricated a man happens to be - for those women, they simply won't respond to cold approaches.

Far better than what Christian Weston Chandler wears: Striped clown shirts and jeans that are too small for his fat frame and, more recently, women's clothing. (In his defense, though, he looks far manlier than Justin Bieber.)

I myself recently took a MILF out to this charity event my workplace does every year--the whole bar area turns into a mini-club with a DJ, a raffle, and our bartenders doing trick-pouring and other fun things--and had on a Mario shirt, baggy shorts, steampunk boots, and argyle socks. I already wear that s**t when I go to her work and sit at the bar there. The whole thing turned into a group date as more women came along, but that's alright.

You forgot to mention his Sonichu medallion. That's the icing on the cake.

Unlike Chris, I'm also willing to date a MILF. If she's a cool enough chick, why not?

He hasn't worn the medallion in forever, though.

it's fascinating to see how the undatables can date it's just more of looking at who you really are inside and find someone that can share that experience along and find a way to make sure equal is true love.

If you analyze people's relationships and behavior towards the opposite sex, you largely conclude that Freud was right. Our relationships with the opposite sex is largely dependent on our relationship with our mother (if male) and father (if female).

For instance, my mother is somewhat emotionally unstable, gets very angry quickly, shuts people out of her life if they displease her and such. So, my approach towards her of trying to avoid doing anything that could possibly offend her or trigger her temper, constantly trying to conform to her standards in order to get praise, approval and affection is a behavioral pattern that was largely repeated with other females prior to me becoming conscious of it.

All parents vow to not f**k up their kids, but all parents end up doing just that.

I know you won't agree with this, but women at large respond to the same things in a man and a lot of those things are often not present in Aspie males. On a non-scientific level, a lot of women are attracted to confidence, status and strength (not just physical) some of which aspies to do not express in the "normal" way. Attraction is in many cases not a conscious choice, but largely subconscious.

Bonding in females is triggered by oxytocin, a hormone which is triggered by touch. Another hormone that triggers bonding in both genders is Phenylethylamine which is triggered by prolonged eye contact.

A lot of things happen on a non scientific level.

Some people say that they can heal you by merely touching you. Some people say snake oil will do wonders for your skin...
The fact that you are saying that its not scientific right there shows how much credibility there is to it.

This is a concept that has been going around since like forever.
Right now its mostly used by" gurus" trying to take money from you to make you look more succesful/whatever quality they say that will bring your life partner.

If any of what this people said was true the number of male members on this section would decrease to a 10th of its size because we´ve all tried this sort of thing. And most of us have found that no matter what this gurus say their method doesnt work for everyone and most people having success with their method would have the same success by approaching people without following any method


If there was any credibility to it there would be plenty of studies to back it up since there are studies to "back up" literally anything(aspie friend shared one about the benefits of semen on fb last week, I think that what you are implying would be in a higher priority than the study I just mentioned)

Maybe if the Aspie and the poet from that series were to try some PUA stuff, it might help.

I did it recently and wound up getting a date out of it. Looks like there's something to it after all.

The hormonal things are scientific, you can look that up pretty much anywhere.

On the "dating guru" aspect, I find your comment to be a lot like the "diet and exercise doesn't work crowd" I have been dieting on and off since I was in my teens and I've yet to find a diet and exercise program that doesn't work. Low fat, low carb, protein, south beach, atkins, etc all work provided there aren't hormonal issues.

The reason why I said it was "non-scientific" is that outside of evolutionary psychology/biology there has been little research into it. Furthermore, people on this forum appears to hate evolutionary psychology and biology with a vengeance and discount any studies from the fields.

The Adapted mind by Bruce Ellis is one source.

However, quoting scientific sources on wrongplanet is pointless because as certain members have proven time and time again, you can always find a source to back up your point of view.

Certain things are simply apriori, such as the fact that as replicator machines for our genes, we seek to find a partner that gives our offspring the best possible reproductive cards.