Is anyone here aromantic and asexual?

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Same here. My mechanical/sensory sexuality is intact, but I have never had sexual thoughts about anyone, though I tried to find them.
Apart from a couple og childhood/teenage crushes and a painful, stormy non sexual relationship with a girlfriend, I have had two longer engagements with men when, I was 18 and 19, - but I actually never had sex. Never missed it.
Skin against skin....Yakkk! Kissing on the mouth....Yakkk!
Let us say that I am mentally asexual, but I still enjoy the look of handsome men, - and sometimes women.

I'm very weird. I really only find women sexually attractive but when I think about sex, I almost always picture doing it with a guy. I have no clue why. I also haven't dated anyone in years because I was really bad at relationships

I have dated and been in relationships not many though but I believe I lean towards being asexual I am not turned on by most guys and find that I dislike sex have had it and don't enjoy it. It does nothing for me really. I am not interested in guys or girls and am not attracted to anyone sexually. I have dated guys over girls don't identify with being a lesbian.
After meeting guys I have always trouble connecting with guys and now in the last few years don't really care for finding a partner. I am not really a romantic person and even if I could find an asexual partner I wouldn't want to really date anyone I am so much happier on my own. The unwritten rules and problems that come with being in relationships don't interest me and relationships come and go so I don't date anymore I believe I will be a crazy cat lady when I am older! My attitude may change but I am very happy on my own now.
Relationships aren't for everyone so to each their own

I'm not sexually attracted to other people at all so I thought I was asexual. I might be wrong now that I think about it more. I'm sexually aroused by the fantasy of myself transforming into an animal or inanimate object of some kind. I wonder if that means I'm attracted to myself. If it does then I am self-sexual. If I'm self-sexual I could also be demi-sexual. If I'm not self-sexual I could just be an asexual fetishist.

The big question is whether or not my transformation fetish constitutes attraction to myself. Does it mean I'm attracted to myself as an animal like some kind of auto-zoophillia?

I'm not sure if I'm homo-romantic or aromantic. I don't know if the admiration I feel towards certain people is love or not. It could just be worship. I want to learn more about these people. I want to get very close emotionally and feel like we understand each other. I don't want to cuddle. I don't want to kiss. I just want a bond where we trust each other. These people are nearly always other women. I have no desire to have sex with them.

I think I'm probably homo-romantic. I'm either an asexual fetishist or a self-sexual demisexual.

Definitely. If you look at AVEN's criteria for aromanticism and asexuality, it does not say anywhere that one has to have sex in order to be aromantic. Also, you most certainly can be aromantic, asexual, and an Aspie.

Asexual? Very likely, and highly suspected. I don't get porn or physical attractiveness or urges. No 'fantasies' or 'fetishes' either. I may have enough tolerance, but I still hate being touched.

Aromantic? I'm not sure...

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I consider myself a-sexual. Pretty pleased with my own company, no need for anyone telling me what to do or what not. I am a bit of a hermit.... and fine with that.

I used to consider myself biromantic asexual but I realized I am bisexual with mostly aromantic tendencies but I see myself as quoiromantic because my ideal would be a queer platonic relationship like the ones I ship in my fandoms.

Found this interview with an asexual woman if anyone is interested.

http://jezebel.com/interview-with-an-asexual-clarifying-what-i-got-wrong-a-1691087587

This made me realise that I didn't understand what asexuality actually is. It's not a lack of interest in sex, you can still have a libido and be asexual, it just means that you find other humans as attractive as a piece of paper.

I have no idea how to classify my sexual and romantic feelings.

Half of my loves have been female, and half have been male. I experienced sexual desire for a for the first time when a female touched me at the age of 17. All the sudden I felt the desire to have sex with one of my male loves when I was 20, so I did it. But I've never really been all that sexually attracted to the human physical form. I have had sex with a very strong, generally quite attractive man, 2 chubby ones, and a very skinny one, and I was most attracted to one of the chubby ones for whatever reason, and most in love with the skinny one because he is like a living encyclopedia of world history (and also lots of other reasons, but that is a particularly notable one). One of the chubby guys and the skinny guy both have this very amazing feeling when I am around them and very nice look in their eyes. I think I like the mind more than the body.

I am however extremely devoted to whoever I am with at the time, though I'm not entirely monogamous. My current bf (skinny one) seems to feel similarly. However, I am not really romantic. I like to talk about our special interests together, but I am often bored or not able to think of how to respond when he talks about love, compliments, marriage, whatever. I'd rather just talk about history and genetics and other scientific things and wander around in the woods and stuff.

But I am with him constantly. We both get really weird about spending more than like 5 hrs apart, which is what I mean about devotion, I guess. We can have sex with other people and it doesn't really change anything, but whoever we f**k, we are scarcely less than 10 feet from each other for more than a matter of hours. Not really sure what is up with that, since most of that time we are pretty silent. But it feels good for some reason. It is very nice to be next to each other, even if we are not interacting at all. It is simple.

I don't really get all the crap about why cheating is such a huge deal and why people should get married and why relationship talks are important and whatever. But I like having someone to f**k and be around like most of the time. So whatever that is.

Question:
If you find a few men attractive, can you still be asexual?
I feel like if I were more attracted to men, I'd want to date more. I'm definitely aromantic as I am generally fine with little socialization. I do fear I may regret not dating more. I'm getting a boyfriend or crush every 2 or 3 years. I even started to follow dating gurus to get dating tips. Really it was just more


rules rules rules!


I don't want to go on a date and have to think about everything I could possibly do or say wrong. I don't see how nts do this dating thing! I couldn't deal with constant romantic ups and downs. I like stability and consistency and predictability.
I thought maybe I was a lesbo, but I would still have these issues even if i were trying to date gals.
I haaaate french kissing. Most guys want to do this. It's like have a fish flopping in my mouth!

I suppose I am.

I don't find anyone attractive. I never want to have sex, never want to do anything romantic (buying roses and chocolate and crap like that with candlelit dinners). I have a boyfriend but it's more like best friends with commitments rather than anything sexual/romantic. We love each other, enjoy the company and whatever but I can't imagine we'd ever have sex. Worth noting this is an online relationship we've had for over 4 years, being friends even longer.

So would this count as aromantic asexual or just asexual?

I'm asexual, but not aromantic. I suspected that I was asexual for quite awhile, then spent a period questioning. I've been in my first relationship for a couple of months and it has without a doubt confirmed my suspicions. I find them aesthetically attractive, but absolutely zero sexual attraction to them and I've never experienced sexual attraction in my life. Also, I'm not particularly "romantic" either, but I do start to feel intensely attached to certain people, so I feel like it qualifies as being romantic in a broad sense.

I don't feel that I could live with being aromantic and asexual.

I respect that in others--but I don't think I could have a loving relationship with somebody with that philosophy.