why is coach doing this to me?!?!

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Ok, all of a sudden coach keeps putting me in the demonstratyion group for soccer practice. WHAT THE HELL! EVERY DAMN TIME! seriously, every damn time wqe have a new drill, he keeps putting me in the demo. And this has just started recently. Maybe he's caught on that i have a listening problem, or that he's testing me. But it pisses me off that he puts me in the demo group, probably knows that i dont understand half the things he says (thus never understanding the drill), and then he yells at me when i stand there barely breathing, completely lost in front of everyone.

I have a strong suspicion that i have CAPD(central auditory processing disorder). I try to pay attention, I hear what he says, I just dont *understand* what the heck he's saying. Should I tell my coach? Or just keep my mouth shut? Because im tired of being embarassed and extremly stressed, and frusterated cause i think he's doing this on purpose, but i dont want to be on bad terms with him or anything? And why would he do it on purpose?

How well do you play soccer?

I have this problem too-- I can hear that you're speaking, but I have no idea what you're saying.

As far as talking to the coach goes... it depends on the coach. I don't have enough info to say if he's the sort of coach that will listen.

my team is one of the top five teams in michigan for my age group, so im pretty good. I consider myself the best 10th grader at my school.



he is a school consuler, does that count as a listenable coach?

I was hoping to hear this - You may be chosen to practice these drills first, not because your coach hates you or something, quite the contrary, it sounds like he is getting one of his best players to demonstrate the drills.. Even if you have difficulty hearing him, you most likely pick it up quickly, at least after having seen it, and do it up towards the best of everyone.

You may just be taking things in wrongly. I think he is having you show these drills because you are a great player! Think positively about it, I doubt the last thing he'd want to do is harass one of his stars

Similarily, I played hockey. One time, we went to overtime. During this overtime, the game was setup that each team would lose 1 player on the ice every minute. I was one of the 2 starting defencemen. After 1 minute went by, they took my defence partner off (I didnt realize how powerful a statement that made about me). I was either the best defenceman on the team (at least) or the 4th best player on the team (at most). I quit hockey and it took years to hear I was great. Needless to say, I remember exactly what happened (story). I was wearing socks that had 'grip' on the bottom of them (I had no other socks clean at the time). My feet were KILLING me because of it.. I should have told the coach of my problem.. During the last play of the hockey game, their star player ended up coming 1 on 1 with me.. well, you guessed, I feel down because of my feet being numb and they scored on our weak goalie..

Look for signs of your talents - your coach using you as his example may only further back your statement about being the best! Run with it and take it as a positive sign. I know attention sucks so try focusing on yourself and your skills over your audience. Don't quit, probably the worst mistake i made - I never had anyone tell me i was good

Hmmm. One can get into trouble by assuming that a person who holds the job is actually qualified for it, but based on what I'm hearing, it sounds like it's a good risk. I would tell him the problem that you are having understanding what he's saying. Since you are diagnosed AS, you can point to that, should you need to.

I agree with Corvus that it doesn't sound like he's intentionally making you feel this way.

When I ran into practice today he said to me that he was irritated with me Monday but didnt state why, I didnt ask either because i didn't want to "irritate" him again.

I dont have AS.

Your profile says that you are diagnosed?

Perhaps asking him why he was irritated with you may help you avoid exhibiting the same behaviour. Just a thought.

I hope things get better for you.

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