Asperger's and ridiculously high sex drive

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Her father nipped the relationship in the bud, though

DAMN!

Yeah....I said the same thing....and much much more, then!

It could have turned into a real West Side Story sort of situation--except neither of our buildings had fire escapes.

have you kept up with her?

There are several factors at play here.

1) As mentioned, I do have superior social functioning to almost all on the spectrum. This is in large part due to the not-so-secret ways in which I've learned to treat my ASD that I've been sharing on these forums for a few years now. I'm also fairly intelligent, yes.. I suppose that doesn't hurt any - especially with being able to come up with just the right thing to say at the right moment, like any good salesman.

2) "Whether you think you can or you can't, you're right." - Henry Ford. Basically, I'm confident in my ability to do these things because I truly do believe I can. It's not a forced belief. It just is.

3) I'm a nice guy and, in general, people like me. That goes a long way whether first impressions or the compliments a friend makes about me in the presence of someone new.

4) I'm tall, decent looking, and quite physically fit at 6'2" 207lbs & 9.5%bf. Pride weekend I was also rocking a rainbow mohawk, my pretty epic beard, & a whole lot of party confidence. I also have a good suntan from spending more than 50 evenings at a nude beach. I look pretty good naked these days.

5) Hanging out at a nude beach, naked every time, makes one quite comfortable with themselves and their body. It's very liberating. It makes all social interactions easier, really. Once you hang out naked with a bunch of other naked people for a couple Summers regular "textile" conversations are a piece of cake.

6) Practice makes perfect.. I've done this so many times it's like taking candy from a baby. Seriously, there are a lot of times I'm offered sex and can't be bothered because I'd rather sleep, or go kiteboarding or w/e. Also, as with anything, the more you do it the better you get at it.. and I know I'm good at.. certain things - which creates an automatic confidence.

7) Come to think of it, a couple occasions at parties over the last year and over Pride weekend are about the only times in my life I've gone through this whole process live in person. (and have done so with natural ease - well, almost natural.. drugs and alcohol were definitely involved both on my part and my partners'.) The vast majority of hookups have been via internet personal ads, gay dating/hookup websites and phone apps. Almost all of them, actually. This allows me to utilize my ability to communicate better via text than in person.. however, in person I'm ever better and in person "chemically enhanced" I'm probably better than email. Perhaps someday I'll be just as smooth stone sober.


While it's fun when I feel like it, just like everyone else.. everyone wants what they can't have. I'd trade this life for a bf I was really into who was mutually into me. That hasn't happened yet. All in due time, I suppose. In the meantime I have a crush on a boy I met at Pride who's in a long distance relationship that I'd like to date if I could.. and I'll probably just continue hooking up here and there as I please until there's a proper mutual thing with someone. Ah well, at least crushes are fun.

I haven't seen her since that same year.

The last time I saw her, she stormed out of her apartment building screaming hysterically.

^^^wow i'm sorry for you to have to have been a part of that.

that's how old i was when started masturbating,with a stuffed curious george & to a movie about tigers then sometime after that,i started masturbating to wild women.

I have similar

My brother had the same thing, I don't think that he is sad about it.

I see this is an old thread, but I find it quite relevant to me anyway. I also remember being turned on by things from a pretty young age, and until nowadays, I found my sex drive to be quite intense. Some bad habits came out of that, which unfortunately led to me devaluing the more essential building blocks of an authentic relationship, and I guess ruining many of the chances I could've had at that before. I eventually found out that this could be having a negative effect on my dopamine levels, and even my brain by extension, which scared me enough that I decided to reevaluate what I'm doing. Since then I tried nofap, and although the longest period of time I can manage with that is usually about 2 weeks, I've become a lot more productive since then. But I still don't think I'm much closer to finding the type of relationship I'm looking for. I might still need to work on my "relatability", so to speak.

That's pretty interesting mentioning dopamine and what not.

I feel I need to stop sexualising people on apps, like the swipe left and right in tinder / scruff and grinder. But we all do it?

I find it easier having sex on holiday as I can switch into that mode, that okay I know this isn't going to turn into a relationship. I guess many in the gay world want sex then the relationship. Though I guess with meeting friends at events, festivals, pubs perhaps easier to develop a connection before sex/dating.

I feel ocd may have something to do with my high sexual energy , perhaps I need to isolate fantasy from reality.

I'm a 30 year old guy with Asperger's who also happens to be bisexual and who is unfortunately still a virgin. Furthermore I also have had a very high sex drive since I was 13, which is also when I first masturbated. I had never heard about the theorized connection between exposure to high testosterone levels in the womb and autism. However, I just read a few articles about it and it seems that while there might be a correlation between exposure to high levels of testosterone in the womb and autism, scientists doubt that autism is actually caused by exposure to high levels of testosterone. And yes, it is very normal to have a very high sex drive when you're still a virgin. It's probably at least partly the result of pent up sexual energy and feeling sexually repressed.

Same and mostly because of my extreme fetishes/kinks.
Usually 2-4 times I fap a day if extremely horny.

However my chronic physical illnesses and depression at times can make me much less horny or not at all.
So it really depends. Anxiety doesn't usually lower my sex drive.
If I'm physically 'well' and mentally 'ok' and bored. I can get extremely horny.

I think I can relate to AlexD. For me I started doing it around 13 or 14. Sometime in the summer, I would wear sneakers to go swimming. I'm still a virgin at 48. When I was younger I thought I was straight. I thought everyone was back then. I've had fetishes. I've only had one girlfriend when I was 19/20. Never had the desire to do it with anyone. I'm disgusted and turned off by porn. I've only been curious about being non-sexually intimate with anyone who might be gender divergent, that I may find attractive. Unusual things arouse me. There has been a couple times in the past year that I've been in a clothing store checking things out and I've got that feeling down there.