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Hey girls,

So to put it bluntly, I can't stand giving oral sex. I've been married for 3 years, and despite trying to ignore my issues, it hasn't gone away. It's been suggested that maybe it's related to autism sensitivities? Any of you girls struggle with it? Any suggestions?

autism or no autism, not everyone likes oral sex. don't feel obligated to do something you've tried and know you don't like. at least not often.

I'm not going to go into detail about what things about it tweak me when they do about it (at least until this is bumped off into the adult board), but sometimes I am tweaked by it, but not as much as I used to be about it though. I'm to the point that I can tolerate giving it just because I like to see him get turned on. But not all things are going to float a person's boat. I can think of some things that I doubt I'd ever get into in a sexual sense.

I don't like it either and I know a few NT girls who don't like it. I'm also not good at it at all. I have a gag reflex, my jaw gets tired, it's repetative and boring. I rarely do it and usually only when I need to to get his equipment functioning properly if you know what I mean and then I switch to something else. I've been married 25 year and I think I've done it all the way to the end maybe 5 times with him

ETA: I've actually got a book with sex advice for women written by a gay man and it goes into great detail about how to do it. I tried it, but I still don't like it. He did though. I didn't.

I can't do it either. My poor bf really wants it, but I can't stand the smell down there. I just can't get over that. Even getting my face too close during handjobs is just too much for me. I don't know if it is normal guy part smell or just his own smell or just me having sensory issues, but the smell is almost revolting.

Oh, it's got a smell for sure. If you want to try then do it when he's right out of the shower. Alternatively you could get a warm wet soapy wash cloth and wash him. Rinse well because soap tastes bad.

Gah... yea, that's the problem with such a topic... girls-only or adult... *sighs* but for what you can say, thanks. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I WANT to like it, which is the really annoying thing... I just... can't.

And too, it depends on what he eats too as it how it'll taste (assuming you're talking his semen and not his actual hardware). I know bf certainly tastes better after he cleaned up his diet (that and I heard rumors that peppermint tea makes it taste better too- and bf has become a peppermint tea guzzling machine). If your man eats a lot of junkfood or very pungent foods, it won't taste anywhere close to good. I remember the first time I did it to bf, he hadn't gone in a while, so when it came out, it was the thickest pungent junk food nasty semen ever and I gagged so hard I nearly almost threw up. With that said, sometimes I hate the texture, like if it's thick, and if I can't anticipate when he'll finish, it makes me gag. Or if he gets too crazy ambitious with his movement, that makes me gag too.

With every time it gets easier though, at least for me.

Yep I hate giving it and receiving. Giving it just tastes bad, it stinks, and I feel wired doing it. I think it's a sensory thing. And I hate reviving it! My husband always wants to but I just don't like it!