French kissing?

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Alright ladies am I the only one that can't stand French kissing? I feel so bad because it really hurts my husbands feelings and he takes offense to it. I try to fake that I enjoy it but he can tell I'm holding my breath and I turn away a lot and avoid "tounge action" how can I be intimate with my husband with all my sensory issues.

i don't know why he still does it, knowing how you feel about it. show him in other ways that you love him and lust for him.

he just gets offended by it, but I really can't stand it.

Only two ways come to my mind: 1) become a big fan of giving him mouthjobs (I am sure he will not complain, and that keeps your mouth busy), 2) become a fan od getting it from behind (you can tell him you would like to try new ways of doing it -men usually love that); if you are not face to face it is really hard to engage in mouth to mouth action.

You are definitely not the only one.
I have never liked french kissing either. I haven't dated anybody in a long, long, long time but I did pretend I used to like it in the past and go along with it. I would secretly wipe my mouth afterwards and feel guilty about doing that. Even if I really liked someone.

Never understood why people like it. I wonder if it is a cultural thing or something only NT's enjoy because I don't see the point.

Last edited by pokerface on 29 Sep 2012, 12:19 pm, edited 1 time in total.

let him be offended. after a while, he will give up.

I hated it too.....also haven't had a boyfriend in years but when I did....although I liked some sexual touching and sometimes liked sex......I hated kissing , especially tongue kissing.

I'm hesistant to suggest this but....

In my experience, most people are not good kissers at all.
Considering most of us are very tactile sensitive - and combined with a partner who is a bad kisser and is not tactile sensitive, it can be a horrible experience.
If you happen to have a partner who is just as tactilely sensitive as you are - it can be amazing though.

Have you considered asking him to be completely still so that you can see if it's easier for you when you can control it? Perhaps you have have to teach him how to kiss slowly over time so that it becomes more enjoyable for you, provided that he is willing to learn?

I hate it too. I don't want somebody elses tongue in my mouth. I do like lip-only kisses though.

Well, it depends.

It can be nasty if the guy put his tongue inside your mouth and uses it as a missile or as a scouring pad.

No, you're not the only one. I can't stand it. Fortunately my husband seems to have figured that out

I don't like it much.
Especially in the morning when the saliva is cold and slimy.

There are other ways to enjoy and I can easily do without tangling tongues.