this is why i only get first dates
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I apologize for my remark, then. I had a bad day and thought you were making fun of me.
Yep, photogenic but still not the best looking. I don't know how that works lol.
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wolfheart I don't kiss the girls on the first date. I usually take the for a cup of coffee bc Ill be honest,i do not feel like paying for an expensive or even cheap meal when the girl will prob not like me anyway lol. Ironically my dates have lasted 2hours just sitting and talking. I do recall on my last ever date i was picking apart the paper straws come in...LOL.
To whoever asked how big the sample size is.....I rarely get girls in real life or online to actually meet me for a date. I've been on 3 first dates from pof that's it.
I have a bit of advice... If all you do is go to a coffee shop, they probably think you're boring, cheap, or both, and possibly other things depending on how the conversation goes. Take them to see a movie and possibly dinner. it doesn't have to be anything fancy necessarily, just ask where they'd like to eat. Try showing up with flowers; They tend to like that.
Also, a lot of your responses to the questions on OKcupid seem rather generic and mysterious... I think you should be more specific. If I were looking for a girl, and all the answers were just kinda playful, mysterious, generic BS, I'd most likely just move on. The more specific you are, the more likely you are to find what you're looking for.
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Last edited by wtfid2 on 27 Oct 2012, 12:20 am, edited 1 time in total.
I apologize for my remark, then. I had a bad day and thought you were making fun of me.
Yep, photogenic but still not the best looking. I don't know how that works lol.
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wolfheart I don't kiss the girls on the first date. I usually take the for a cup of coffee bc Ill be honest,i do not feel like paying for an expensive or even cheap meal when the girl will prob not like me anyway lol. Ironically my dates have lasted 2hours just sitting and talking. I do recall on my last ever date i was picking apart the paper straws come in...LOL.
To whoever asked how big the sample size is.....I rarely get girls in real life or online to actually meet me for a date. I've been on 3 first dates from pof that's it.
I have a bit of advice... If all you do is go to a coffee shop, they probably think you're boring, cheap, or both, and possibly other things depending on how the conversation goes. Take them to see a movie and possibly dinner. it doesn't have to be anything fancy necessarily, just ask where they'd like to eat. Try showing up with flowers; They tend to like that.
Also, a lot of your responses to the questions on OKcupid seem rather generic and mysterious... I think you should be more specific. If I were looking for a girl, and all the answers were just kinda playful, mysterious, generic BS, I'd most likely just move on. The more specific you are, the more likely you are to find what you're looking for.
Well maybe that's your problem; you're boring and cheap. You need to either find a girl who likes boring and cheap or you need to come up with something fun to do that's also cheap.
I agree dates should be split and relationships should be equal and all that, but it doesn't hurt to show her you can give her something nice once in a while. I don't agree with it, but apparently first impressions mean a lot to people.
Though I don't care about money and such, I know all my girlfriends do expect to see you give up a lot for the first date. If they think you are holding in some, they don't like it...It's sad but most girls are like this. I'm happy with coffee shoips and movies though I do think guys should pay though, but I'm not a feminist or anything, just traditional. If a girl wants a guy to pay AND be dominant, then that's weird in my opinion.
I once saw a thread on a dating forum entitled ''he didnt pay for my coffee''. It was about a woman who mvt a guy for a date loved everything about him, an then couldn't decide whether to see hi again bc he didnt pay for her coffee. Makes me sick lol.
i like stads(or w/e his name is) idea of finding something fun and cheap to do.....although my dirty mind is thinking of sex in my car
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Of course you gals like us to pay for the first date - especially when there's no second date. All those free meals must be nice...
Of course you gals like us to pay for the first date - especially when there's no second date. All those free meals must be nice...
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Of course you gals like us to pay for the first date - especially when there's no second date. All those free meals must be nice...
I always pay for myself on the first date.
It's only fair.
Especially if you don't even know if you would be interested in seeing each other again.
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Of course you gals like us to pay for the first date - especially when there's no second date. All those free meals must be nice...
I always pay for myself on the first date.
It's only fair.
Especially if you don't even know if you would be interested in seeing each other again.
the problem is theres a lot like
http://www.learnvest.com/2011/11/woman- ... -food-332/
as has been said, the ones working for the good usually dont stick out as bad as the ones doing bad
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Wow.
People actually DO that?
Wouldn't it just been easier to find a cheaper apartment?
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Of course you gals like us to pay for the first date - especially when there's no second date. All those free meals must be nice...
I always pay for myself on the first date.
It's only fair.
Especially if you don't even know if you would be interested in seeing each other again.
the problem is theres a lot like
http://www.learnvest.com/2011/11/woman- ... -food-332/
as has been said, the ones working for the good usually dont stick out as bad as the ones doing bad
Oh god the comments..
Of course you gals like us to pay for the first date - especially when there's no second date. All those free meals must be nice...
I always pay for myself on the first date.
It's only fair.
Especially if you don't even know if you would be interested in seeing each other again.
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Depends. It can be a pain to spilt it exactly every single time, it works better if there's a good level of reciprocity.
E.g. For the last few dates I have been on it is as follows:
First: We paid for ourselves seperately.
Second: He cooked me dinner.
Third: I cooked him dinner.
Fourth: We paid seperately.
Fifth: He paid for both of us.
Sixth: I paid for both of us.
Paying seperately is always a good idea on the first one.
After that it's up to both of you how you deal with it.
As long as there is an overall equal level of reciprocity, it's fine.
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Last edited by Kjas on 27 Oct 2012, 6:14 am, edited 1 time in total.
Wow.
People actually DO that?
Wouldn't it just been easier to find a cheaper apartment?
just shows ow easy itis for girls to keep multiple guys interested.
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