incident at barber shop!

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I have been seeing this hairdresser since 2005.

More too the point today before I had my haircut by her she did not look too impressed with me when I told her that I was still unemployed. She then handed me a job leaflet about volunteer gardening. When I read the leaflet the first paragraph really stunned me..!.

"'Minding the garden' uses the great outdoors to support people with mental health problems such as depression and anxiety." And the last paragraph "ecotherapy helps boost mental health in a positive enviorment"

Honestly I went really quiet after reading that because I just felt embarresed since I never discuss my mental health problems with my barber.

Judging by the fact she gave me this leaflet (from a pile of other leaflets) how do you think I might come across too her? A year she was very friendly too me but in the last few months she has been a bit indifferent towards me.

You don't think it sounds like a good opportunity?

It does but what do you think the barber shop lady thinks about me?

I'd be thinking the same as you (I have no idea what she is thinking about you) why don't you ask her? She might explain

Short of asking her, I don't know, but she presented you with an opportunity and it wouldn't hurt to make something good of it.

Unless the barber is a moonlighting psychologist, she might be able to see that something is different about you but has no idea what is different. It is likely just a well-intentioned attempt to politely help.

Who cares?
She's done you a small favour there and given you something that could really help.
Seriously, go for that job - sounds like it will do you the world of good.

I think she was trying to help you. Carpe Deim.

Well, I don't think it is her business. If she prefaced it by asking you if you were interested in a volunteer opportunity, it would have probably been more appropriate though a bit presumptuous as you are private about your health. I wouldn't know what to make of someone just handing me a pamphlet like that. In truth, I would go somewhere else to get my haircut. But, that is me. I find it easier than going back to ask 'why' (I'm not good at that sort of thing) and I would have been hurt. However, you have known her over a period of time and if you are comfortable it is probably a good idea to ask her what her intentions were by giving you the pamphlet. She might have good intentions and didn't know how to talk to you. If she is not nice about it, then you can decide if you want her to cut your hair anymore or not. It is up to you and your comfort level. I would have had the same initial reaction as you: shocked and embarrassed. I did get an anonymous letter with information about depression one time - and I was already being treated for depression. It did nothing for my social comfort, wondering just how much I stood out to others and how. Not really good for depression.

Best to you, LM