cathylynn wrote:
have you ever heard of making a gratitude list? you think of something that starts with "a" that you're grateful for, then "b", then "c", etc. by the time you get to "z" you usually feel better. i was single for most of my first 52 years (was engaged for a couple of years in my late 20's). when i was not having psychosis, i generally felt that life was worth living. a special relationship can add meaning and joy, but making it the only thing worth living for puts too much pressure on the other person and may drive potential mates away. perhaps some re-prioritizing is in order.
People gain happiness and fulfillment differently. Just as there's no one race, one job for all or one type of sexual choice.
For you and others a relationship might just be an add on that means nothing overall, but for many it's everything and their whole point of existing. Even if I had billions of dollars I'd never be happy alone.
I never said it's the only thing. If I had a relationship but none of my hobbies I'd probably be unhappy too. I can't stand alone I'm not programmed to be alone. I'm a social person. We rely on others for happiness
Others aren't and rely on activities and objects for happiness, all good for them I'd never ask they be like me, why am I continually demanded to be like them.