Do people consider you mature or immature?

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Do people consider you mature or immature?
Most people consider me more immature than people of my age; 72%  72%  [ 42 ]
Most people consider me as mature as people of my age; 10%  10%  [ 6 ]
Most people consider me more mature than people of my age. 17%  17%  [ 10 ]
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02 Dec 2012, 12:45 pm

I am interested in this topic, since I saw many people on this forum claiming that people tend to consider them immature. About me, most of the people I've known in my life tend to consider me more immature than peers, not only socially, but in every aspect of my life. Even those who entered my room, said that it's weird seeing toys in the room of a teenager like me. Some people say that it's related to ASD, but I'm not really sure about it. What about you?


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02 Dec 2012, 2:21 pm

People often think I am younger than I am, and not because of the way I look. I would say the vast majority of people consider me to be immature by close to a decade or more.


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02 Dec 2012, 2:23 pm

definitely immature.......



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02 Dec 2012, 2:34 pm

It seems immaturity can mean different things to different people. Some consider it being irresponsible or not being able to control your emotions, and some consider it hanging on to child-like ways of thinking.

I consider myself a responsible person, at least when it comes to taking care of other people or animals, but not always when it comes to looking after my own well-being.

I can be immature or childlike in other ways, however. Or some people would consider it eccentric.

When my daughter and grand kids were little, I loved getting them toys for Christmas because I love toys. I wanted to make the kids happy of course, but I got to play with the toys too.

I like to make my living room into a winter wonderland at Christmas. I bring out my dolls and elves and toy soldiers, little houses and snowman ornaments. I would like to have multiple Christmas trees if I could afford it and had the space, complete with little villages and trains running through the whole thing. I love playing with building toys like Lincoln logs and marble runs. I know this is childish, but I don't care. Its fun.



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02 Dec 2012, 2:53 pm

It depends on who I'm with. Some people who only judge me on my clumsiness, horrible reaction time, and sometimes-awkward interactions see me as immature. However, all of my closest friends (especially those who match me in terms of intelligence/creativity) and people who know me in terms of my work in the ASD community tend to view me as really mature.


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02 Sep 2015, 8:28 am

I can 'act' mature enough to stop people from 'seeing' the child trapped inside of me - Jeez I'm good!

Most of the time anyway.


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03 Sep 2015, 12:13 am

i seem to give off bad first impressions, but good lasting impressions. i guess im initially seen as immature 'cause im easily misunderstood to people who don't know me, but people seem to think im pretty okay after getting to know me.

well, now that i think about it more, the people who know me seem to comment on both sides. sometimes i have the maturity of a five year old, but ultimately im actually really mature when it comes to stuff that matters.



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03 Sep 2015, 1:27 am

More immature behavior, I think.


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03 Sep 2015, 1:24 pm

More immature for my age.


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03 Sep 2015, 1:29 pm

Most people think I'm a clown.



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03 Sep 2015, 1:34 pm

I think it's very context-dependent for me.

In social situations I can often seem immature, but when it comes to dealing with overly emotional people at my workplace, working hard or independently on a project, finding solutions to problems, or such the like I sometimes am told I am pretty mature about it.



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03 Sep 2015, 1:35 pm

Well then, let me tell what people consider me if I'm mature or immature.

When I'm not 'behaving' like what I'm supposed to behave like, not only am I told that I'm immature, I'm told to grow up, behave like a man, and put down for it. When I'm behaving maturely in whatever situation, I'm told that I'm trying too hard and to settle down like as if I was trying to dominate everyone else and also put down for it, and to behave like a normal man.

Neurotypicals and their ridiculous constant high expectations, they're never pleased with anything no matter what.



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03 Sep 2015, 2:00 pm

Both. It really depends on who the person is and what my mood is and how I am coming off as and what they mean by immature and mature.

To my husband immature means doing drugs and going out partying and not wanting to work and just wanting to party and you spend your money on stuff than on bills first so to him I am mature, not immature because I do not do these things.


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03 Sep 2015, 6:02 pm

People think I'm more mature in someways like I like to research autism and stuff like that but then think I'm more immature in someways like I play with dolls and stuff like that.


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04 Sep 2015, 9:54 am

That's a tough question for me. My mother has said she thinks I am immature for my age, but I have been told by many other people that I am more mature than others my age. I guess in some ways, I am less mature, but people have said that I'm an "old soul" and I always feel that I have more in common with people that are older than I am.


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04 Sep 2015, 9:57 am

Probably immature, I'm not that young anymore and I fail at being an adult.