Do you find it harder to keep friends as you get older

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There Are Always Good People Out There Looking For Friends

I hope I can be of some encouragement here. I went to church this morning, and I met a girl who was sitting right in front of me. She was on her own, about 25 and attractive. I chatted to her briefly for a minute or two when the kids were going out to their classes (and everyone else is invited to say Hi to their neighbors) . She told me she recently came back home from the U.S. and I said 'oh really' with interest, and then after the service finished she turned round and continued the conversation with me, and we got a coffee together, and I introduced her to a few other people.

She went onto tell me that since she came back to the UK in December all her friends relationships situations had changed and she was on her own a bit, and basically wanted new friends. So whatever age you are there will always be people new to the area, or who's circumstances have changed who want new friends and you just need to go out and find them!

Yes, well said about being tired of giving people validation and making them feel good about themselves. I'm also tired of being a good listener and trying to add value to a person's life. All I get in return is spoiled brats demanding more and more and not behaving as friends at all.

To answer the original question: "Anyone here find yourself becoming more alienated from friends and family as time goes on, like into middle age? This is problematic because at the same time, it is more difficult to make new friends as you age. Does anyone else deal with this predicament? How have you managed it?"


Yes. I have no friends. Nothing to manage. LOL

I couldn't really "keep" friends when I was younger. Of all the people I was friends with, most of them were transient in a sense. Only one friend from school do I see on even a remotely regular basis, and I think she may be a bit aspie. Which is a good thing because we always seemed to be on the same page.