Is THIS a good sign???

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Today,me and my Mom went to see the movie "Thr3e"(which was VERY good,although the book was better).She promised me that she would take me to Books-A-Million this Monday and that she would take me get my driver's license.

Before the movie,we ate at Subway.

While we were there she asked me if I had a girlfriend to which I replied "no".She just smiled,but said nothing.

When we got home she said IT.

She said,"I love you."






-SpaceCase

It is a good sign if you think it is.

Tim

THIS seems pretty good to me.

her asking you if you've found a girlfriend, means that she's probably confortable enough to talk about your orientation.
"i love you" means well...you know. it's those big three words that should carry a lot of emotion with them.

The fact that she's trying to do things with you is a good sign. She likely feels bad about fighting, so even if she isn't to the point of entirely accepting who you are, its a good sign she's at the least trying to make peace. Progress is progress.

I'm not sure how to interpret this to be honest. The fact that she asked shows an interest in your life. The fact that she asked in subway showed that, regardless of your answer, she wasn't planning on flipping out. I don't think making a scene at Subway was really something she'd want to do, especially if it were to mean that others were to hear about things. If she's got a problem with it, sharing the information with others is the last thing she would want to do. Her response? It may have been relief. It may have been just friendly. Its how she respond that's hard to judge. Regardless, it isn't negative. Its not like she went running into the streets shouting for joy. She made a huge effort to reach out to you, from the way things sound. If nothing else give her credit for that.

That's never a bad thing. Sounds like she really wants to work on improving her relationship with you.

I know a lot of kids who get thrown out of their houses for coming out to their parents, I would take this from your mom as a totally positive step in the right direction!

Ah, have a cry for the men of this world...

It's good that she's accepted it. Your preference is just that: your own. Nothing anyone can do can stop you from feeling the way you do, and those who try to change you ought to be ashamed of themselves. Her being willing to accept it shows that she's both strong and understanding. Strong for accepting something that is different, and understanding in that it's from her child.

I've noticed that mothers are much more understanding in general; though it took her a little while, my mother finally accepts the likelihood that I have AS, whereas my father won't even listen to my stepmother if she brings it up.

Sounds good to me Space. Just take it slow and low key.

From previous postings that I have read regarding your mom I know that must have been very hard for her, so I would say yes that is a good sign. It seems your both trying, I'm proud of you. You could have told her you did not want to go to the movies with her or spend the day with her but you went, and she did not have to ask you about your girlfriend or tell you she loved you but she did. Good job spacecase. There is hope for all people it just takes some a little longer then others. Finding your way thru the teenage years is hard under the best of circumstances, so my prayer for you is that your mom and you would find your way to an open, warm and loving relationship. Best of luck to you both.

It sounds good to me. I echo the advice about taking it slowly. She probably doesn't fully accept you yet so don't ram it in her face just yet. Take it slowly. Let us know how you get on, won't you?

Don't rush things.

Don't know if its a good thing or a bad thing cuz when you said you don't have a girlfriend,she smiled,thats NOT a good sign IMHO.

[quote="Tequila"]It sounds good to me. I echo the advice about taking it slowly. She probably doesn't fully accept you yet so don't ram it in her face just yet. Take it slowly. Let us know how you get on, won't you?[/Tequila"]

I agree. Best of luck.