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16 Jan 2018, 8:23 am

Absolutely... change sucks... this last year has been a metaphorical iditarod of change for me... moving, got dumped, friends moved away, started college, lost a car... it sucks.


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18 Mar 2018, 5:53 pm

definitely the best thing I've ever read, I want to show this to each of my family, it would be great to have a better understanding



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29 Mar 2018, 4:16 pm

Hey guys. The series has been moved as we have reorganized the website. http://www.savagelightstudios.com


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29 Mar 2018, 4:45 pm

Excellent writing Feralucce. :D

I'm glad for the recent posts as I have managed somehow to miss this thread previously. I've only read the first few parts so far, but already I'm very heartened to see you covering the simple things which are so often forgotten (e.g. the role of poor sleep) and especially your emphasis on how the way that we are treated affects our self-esteem (so often neglected in other guides.)

Wishing you every success with the printed book, and hoping that you will get the opportunity to publish the follow-up volumes. :D


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07 Apr 2018, 12:31 pm

Thank you for your praise... i do my best


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27 Apr 2018, 9:29 am

This could be exactly what I am looking for. Lemme go through it and see, but I am already feeling excited!


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27 Apr 2018, 11:16 am

Also, are you open to uodating the content of your series with alternative ways some AS issues may express themselves? Like, in the Sensory issues part you talk ahout hypersensitivity, but in my case I actually have hiposensitivity so I may be able to provide some thoughts and information on that


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29 Apr 2018, 12:19 am

Shatbat wrote:
Also, are you open to uodating the content of your series with alternative ways some AS issues may express themselves? Like, in the Sensory issues part you talk ahout hypersensitivity, but in my case I actually have hiposensitivity so I may be able to provide some thoughts and information on that

I am open to anything as long as I can get enough data on it. The issue is, this is the first I've heard of this issue... If you would like to send me an outline so I can research my email is always open [email protected] and just hit me with the subject "Care and Feeding" and I'll take a look at it... I have 2 days of class and then finals, and then i will dive in.


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08 May 2018, 6:44 pm

Okay... This permanent link will always take you to the series, and I will be adding to it slowly, but surely... But I am done with WP.

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21 Feb 2019, 9:15 pm

Yes you sure got to care and feed for your autistic.



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08 May 2019, 5:52 pm

What are some creative ways that this thread has been hijacked



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03 Aug 2019, 2:11 am

*wink* this is one.

Actually, most people have stayed pretty much on topic.


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29 Jan 2020, 10:43 am

BuyerBeware wrote:
This really ought to read, "Why Not To Bother Having An Aspie In Your Life."

Really-- if you have to go to all that adjustment and change for another human being, it's just not worth it.

Trust me. Hubby and I have been trying for years. Every year we get more resentful of each other and more unhappy.

If you're a neurotypical, look for relationships with other neurotypicals.

If you're an Aspie, find a few friendships with very tolerant individuals who don't mind spending the occasional Friday night playing Trivial Pursuit or talking about books or painting miniatures you're never going to play with or whatever. Join a club that serves your interest, and be content to take a passive role. Don't try to have close relationships with people-- you are not suited for it, and no matter what they tell themselves in the interest of wanting to see themselves as good guys, they don't want you.

I'm sorry. I know this is harsh. We have the same right to live as anyone else, blah blah blah.

BS. I wish someone had given me this advice when I was a young idealistic Aspie looking to build myself a life. It would have saved a lot of heartache and trouble. Not just for me. Hubby would have a happy, fulfilling life with a normal wife and four beautiful, wonderful f**ked-up kids would not be destined for a life of suffering, struggling, failure, and misery.

But hell no. People just have to spread their f*****g idealism around...

Come spend a week in my house, and then talk about how Aspies are just fine, Aspies and NTs can co-exist, all that other s**t. It's BS.


Yeah, that’s only applicable if the aspie isn’t trying to put them selves to the side in the interaction. It’s perfectly possible for an aspie to behave appropriately/pleasantly in a social situation, but it’ll take a lot of effort and practice. There’s nothing wrong with an aspire trying to have close relationship with someone, but they’ll need to go against what’s natural for them. That’s why it’s important for us to take breaks.