terrible problems with a friend

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It sounds as though he gets periods of paranoia. When he's not in that frame of mind what is he like? I tend to trust guys opinions about other guys, they seem to know where they're coming from better than women but what is your gut instinct about him en_una_isla? You say you like him when he's sane, when he is sane could you ask him why he does this odd behaviour and tell him it worries you.
If you have the smallest instinct/feeling of fear of him, I'd dump him. I know that sounds cruel, but you must look after yourself.

When he is sane, I have asked him what I should do the next time he goes nuts, and he will swear to me that it will never happen again. He has apologized to me many times for acting crazy, but has told me that insanity is part of the package of his friendship (so I guess I just have to accept it?).

My gut instinct tells me he's unpredictable and tormented. I never know, for certain, how he will react to anything.

Well, it's a tough call. I wouldn't necessarily dump someone because they are sometimes nuts.
It sounds to me like you have taken on an almost 'mothering' role with him. You aren't responsible for him being lonely, although I would feel a lot of sympathy if I had a friend like that, his happiness is ultimately his responsibility. Maybe if you like him and don't want to break with him, lay down a few ground-rules with yourself. I wouldn't collude with the paranoia, i.e. if he asks you to prove yourself in any way, don't. He won't believe you anyway by the sounds of it.

"Well I managed to cut him off for a couple months a while back, but then he called my house and the whole cycle started all over again".

How did you feel when you cut him off for a few months? If you feel better off when he's not around, then that will tell you a lot about how you really feel about the situation.

A PM has been sent to you regarding this.

Well there you go Lass, I think you've found the answer

I work in the law enforcement field. To me, this guy sounds like he can be dangerous when he goes "off". Be very cautious. I would suggest that it would be prudent to protect yourself and cut off any and all contact with this person.

galump