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i was on the computer one day and i found out that my dad have been on adult sites should i tell my mom

This doesn't belong in the haven but whatever you heart wants.

Hmm....That's a tough subject. My dad did that when I was younger, when my parents were still together. I think if it gets worse you should tell your mother.

My dad used to do that when he was married and he probably still does.
It's usually not a problem, I would think.
But what kind of porno is it?

I hope he isn't addicted to it.

If it were me...I wouldn't tell my Mom unless my Dad was doing it ALL the time. If your Dad is only doing it every now and then, he's just being a man. Men love to look at women, married or single. It doesn't make it right but it's something that hundreds of thousands of men do. As long as he's not actually sleeping with other women, I would leave it alone. It's even possible that your Mom already knows. If she doesn't though, it's just going to hurt her and cause a problem between them, hopefully not, but it could.
If it just really bothers you to know your Dad is doing that, then you have to decide how to handle that. Maybe tell him how much it upsets you, or go ahead and talk to your Mom.
I would be really uncomfortable talking to my Dad about something like that, mostly in fear of making him mad. If it bothered me that bad though, in order to keep from hurting my Mom, I would probably talk to my Dad about it.

hmm.

I know how you feel.

back in fifth grade(yes. bit odd) I had a problem with porn.

But if you're concerned then talk to your dad privatly.

she probably already knows...

I've never felt so happy to be single with no kids.

From a logic standpoint, you gain little by telling your mother about this.

If you feel the need to discuss it, bring it up with your father. However, you have to weigh the possible negative consequences of bringing up your father's possible pornography habits with him and the problems you are currently facing.

Good luck, in any case.

You may find out your mom is into porn to so I would not tell her.
I know there is alot of asexuality amoung aspies. And females naturally(less visual sexually stimulated) do not
like porn as much as men but its pretty common amoung men to
look at porn.

I tend to agree with this. Strictly speaking this isn't really that abnormal (especially among men). I hope that if it becomes an issue, both your mom and dad are able to deal with it in proper adult manner.

I personally know that I could not bring something like this up with my parents with the anxieties that I have (to be honest, I think this would be difficult to bring up for any child, let along one on the autistic spectrum).

Uh, as far as I'm aware, every middle aged guy on the planet with a computer is going to be looking at porn. You could make an equation out of it.

If the content involves children or other illeagal material, you should report it to your mom. Othewise, it is usually considered normal to review adult sites online and your mother may also have been the one looking. It probably wont hurt to talk about your concerns, but it might be akward and embarrasing for both parents.