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Do you want kids?
Yes 16%  16%  [ 60 ]
Yes 17%  17%  [ 65 ]
No 22%  22%  [ 83 ]
No 27%  27%  [ 100 ]
Maybe 7%  7%  [ 25 ]
Maybe 8%  8%  [ 30 ]
im a neurotypical 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
im a neurotypical 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
wanna see dem results 1%  1%  [ 4 ]
wanna see dem results 2%  2%  [ 6 ]
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11 Feb 2016, 8:34 pm

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On one hand, creating a whole new person from my genetics who I will more likely than not love unconditionally sounds kind of cool.

On the other, attaining my own goals will be more difficult, and little kids/babies are awful.

This is going to sound horrible, but I often fantasize about having a child young and giving it up, only to reconnect with it as a teen years later. Sounds nice in fantasy, but terribly cold as an actual goal.

(Oh, and I would say I don't want to pass on my anxiety, depression, and ASD, but if I have all those and still prefer being alive, then it's only ideal to think that they will as well. I wouldn't want to imply that not being alive at all is better than all those things combined. It sounds like the opposite of what counselors tell me.)


Doesn't sound horrible to me. But there's one thing you may not have thought about, what's going to happen to this kid during those years? You'd probably be put in a really sour mood if at your reunion you discovered the kid had grown up to be a disappointing twit.



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11 Feb 2016, 9:05 pm

Sour mood or not, the kid could be like that whether or not I raised it. If it is a twit, then at least I won't have just put fifteen years into raising one, and if it's got its own family, I'll just keep my distance. Still be there, but not as bad as having to live with one.

Besides, it's still kind of cool, in a superficial way.

(Though that is treating the child like an experiment, which probably wouldn't do wonders for its personality.)



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11 Feb 2016, 9:13 pm

Maybe. I think it would be fun to have kids and have someone to be with me as I aged, but it would be a lot of work and pregnancy does NOT sound fun. And I don't want to adopt for some reason. I think it's because it's more like having a stranger suddenly come live at your house, instead of bringing a new person into the world with no past experiences that might taint their image of me.

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11 Feb 2016, 9:23 pm

No. Children disgust me.



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13 Feb 2016, 12:54 pm

Currently undecided.


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24 Feb 2016, 10:21 pm

Yes. If I can't find good friends, I shall create them :)



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24 Feb 2016, 11:10 pm

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Yes. If I can't find good friends, I shall create them :)
My parents told me parent's are not supposed to be friends with their kids.


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25 Feb 2016, 3:51 am

Well, parents are supposed to be the boss of children, but I don't want to be a dictator, I want to be the kind and friendly type.



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25 Feb 2016, 1:38 pm

MannyBoo wrote:
Well, parents are supposed to be the boss of children, but I don't want to be a dictator, I want to be the kind and friendly type.
Are children supposed to be the boss when their kids are adults? cuz my mom told me that when I was a adult. I was never really wanting her to be my friend; I was wanting her to better understand & accept my issues more.


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25 Mar 2016, 4:53 pm

No. Children overstrain me. I can't hear a baby screaming without having a mental breakdown. And I wouldn't want to be responsible for them. I would probably forget to feed them or forget them in the supermarket all the time. Raising a child on my own isn't something I'd like to do. On the other hand, I think I'd be a great aunt. I'd buy my niece/nephew sweets and books and force them to read them and I'd go to an amusement park or to the cinema. I'd try to give them good advice and teach them values.


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25 Mar 2016, 6:22 pm

I do, but no woman in her right mind would want to be their mother.


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08 Jul 2016, 1:27 pm

Yes. I'd like to adopt one child; maybe a child with a disability, and have another biological child.


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08 Jul 2016, 2:37 pm

Never.



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12 Aug 2016, 2:57 pm

It's too late for me, now----but, I'd always wanted 4 (two of each). If I allowed it, it could really be a total bummer, that I don't have children.



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23 Sep 2016, 8:45 pm

Yes, I love kids! They're so much fun! ^.^

They'd probably have to be adopted.


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23 Sep 2016, 9:59 pm

I would like to work with children, but not have them. I'd be a horrid parent. :lol:


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