hittin on store employees

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ok,so what's this deal about hitting on employees(of gym,store,coffee)
some people will say ''employee are suppose to be nice(right)and they
are not interested in dating''
or it's like illegal or against social rules or something.
Fair enough,but here where it get confusion.

when I hear women say:''oh,I meet my husband who
was a customer at the store(coffee,gym,wherever) I work
at''........ok,that right there,throw everything out,it
shows that it's possible for a customer-employee
relationship.

and I made couple female friends(both married) who
are both store employer at the same store.
I even asked one out at one time..

so...

nothing wrong with it - but you just need to be careful that you respect their time and the work they have to do.

I've never heard that it's a bad thing to do, and I've worked in customer service and had it happen many times. The only one that made me uncomfortable was the drunk that whispered in my ear I had a nice ass.

Okay so where you are going wrong here is with this part:

They are supposed to be nice, so their niceness is not necessarily an indicator of interest. However, if they seem nicer to you or more flirty than they are with the other customers, then they might like you.

Yes hitting on store employees isn't the best approach to finding a girlfriend. If a woman is half decent looking and is working she probably gets hit on often when she is required to be nice. If you really like the way this woman looks and are interested in her than here are a few things I would do.

1. Observe her eye contact with you. If she is giving you a wide open smile in a certain way than she very well could be interested. There really is no way to explain this over the internet. Something like this though is a good sign:



2. Ask her questions. And then build on her answers. Meaning if you ask her how her day was and she responds with " good " than she isn't interested in you and there's really no point in trying to have a conversation with her. If she responds with " my day was ok, just went to school and then came here to work. How was your day?" You should respond with "my day was ok. What are you studying in school?"

It's all about building on the information that the woman gives you Bill. If she said that she just went to school and came to work than she doesn't want to talk about football or cars. The more you build on what's in her mind and the more you can get her to talk, the better chance you have of establishing a relationship.

Talk 70% about her and 30% about you.

It's unprofessional. In a store you are employed to do your job, not to flirt with women.

hitting store employees will get you kicked out and possibly arrested.

I've actually had a couple occasions where store employees have openly flirted with me. Unfortunately it was always with ones that I wasn't attracted to in the least (they all looked fine physically but didn't seem to have much going on upstairs, to put it nicely). One started asking me about what type of women I like, and how someone as attractive as me wasn't married...while I was waiting for a lb of sliced turkey at the grocery store. I'll admit I was flattered, but it totally caught me off-guard.

When I was a waitress I got hit on quite a bit.You can't really go by someone smiling,waitress and most service people do that ,you are suppose to be friendly.Once a dirty old man grabbed me,but that was the only time anyone got out of line physically.One guy asked if I would sit on his face,ugh.I was really glad when I saw him slip and fall down on the courthouse lawn.

at least most men dont have to worry about being hit on.

Even though that sometimes sux for shy guys, not getting approached by women might be an advantage. If you're a women, you don't get to choose who hits on you. It could be some 40 year old hobo. However, when you're a guy, you have the choice of who you want to approach. You could go talk to that really attractive women. (if shes not working) And most men don't have to worry about being approached by women even if they're very unattractive.