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29 Nov 2013, 2:48 am

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^ Thread's over. It can drift to whatever topic for all I care now.

Me and the GF have managed to come to peace with each other, and can remain as friends, but friends only.


is it really peace, or pieces?

hmm maybe I need to go get the body bag.


Peace that could easily fall to pieces still, so don't hold your breath.


Cut contact with her and move on. You are going to end up trying and salvage something that is unsalvageable.



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29 Nov 2013, 5:51 am

I meant, rehab, to detox from love drugs on your mind...

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29 Nov 2013, 7:42 am

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No hugs please -___-


Will you accept a manly fistbump then? :lol:


Ok.

*cockbump*

Oops, sorry, wrong hand.



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29 Nov 2013, 10:40 am

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Ok.

*cockbump*

Oops, sorry, wrong hand.


You know I still used my fist, yes? Your little mistake costed you a few minutes of agony and pain :P


Well Shau, do what you must. It is possible to keep seeing people as a friend after such things happen, and those friendships can still be valuable. And once one takes the decision of not hit in another person, future interactions with them become more straightforward and without so much doubts. If you think such a friendship would fill you instead of draining you, go for it.


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29 Nov 2013, 11:10 am

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Ok.

*cockbump*

Oops, sorry, wrong hand.


You know I still used my fist, yes? Your little mistake costed you a few minutes of agony and pain :P


Well Shau, do what you must. It is possible to keep seeing people as a friend after such things happen, and those friendships can still be valuable. And once one takes the decision of not hit in another person, future interactions with them become more straightforward and without so much doubts. If you think such a friendship would fill you instead of draining you, go for it.


Yes I know.

And it's your fist that would be really hurt, toughness physics.



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29 Nov 2013, 11:13 am

Where you *that* happy to see me? :wink:


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29 Nov 2013, 11:20 am

Being a rather visual sort of cat...I've just...just...ehem, how does all that work anyway?

Never mind...

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29 Nov 2013, 6:44 pm

Shatbat wrote:
Well Shau, do what you must. It is possible to keep seeing people as a friend after such things happen, and those friendships can still be valuable. And once one takes the decision of not hit in another person, future interactions with them become more straightforward and without so much doubts. If you think such a friendship would fill you instead of draining you, go for it.


At this point "being friends" is more akin to "managing to not hate each other afterwards".



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29 Nov 2013, 7:14 pm

What exactly is it that makes this upsetting?



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29 Nov 2013, 8:00 pm

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What exactly is it that makes this upsetting?


Name one reason why you shouldn't be banned for life.



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29 Nov 2013, 8:09 pm

Shau wrote:
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Well Shau, do what you must. It is possible to keep seeing people as a friend after such things happen, and those friendships can still be valuable. And once one takes the decision of not hit in another person, future interactions with them become more straightforward and without so much doubts. If you think such a friendship would fill you instead of draining you, go for it.


At this point "being friends" is more akin to "managing to not hate each other afterwards".


Mate, do yourself a massive favour and cut contact. You need time to heal. No friendship is going to be possible right now and deep down you know that, so don't try to pretend and just do what's best for you. You don't need anyone's approval, least of all hers.


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29 Nov 2013, 8:28 pm

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What exactly is it that makes this upsetting?


Name one reason why you shouldn't be banned for life.

Moderation would have to be terrible to ban someone for asking a question. What is it specifically that makes "cheating" something to mention, let alone be hurt by? I'd just like to know.



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29 Nov 2013, 8:47 pm

I agree with Kjas. If it is a matter of "we'll tolerate each other" then it's better to just be done with it. It is not a good idea to have people in your life who you "try not to get at their throat", if you don't truly and genuinely think spending time with her is good, and things are going to be this strained, then I'd have to ask why would you bother to maintain contact.

Also Pabbicus, cheating means breaking the trust that has been put on someone else. Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, to the point that if there is no trust then there should be no relationship.


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29 Nov 2013, 8:51 pm

I still reckon a boys night in with lots of shooting games, ice cream and Fast and Furious movies is the way to go.


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30 Nov 2013, 2:27 am

Kjas wrote:
Mate, do yourself a massive favour and cut contact. You need time to heal. No friendship is going to be possible right now and deep down you know that, so don't try to pretend and just do what's best for you. You don't need anyone's approval, least of all hers.


More or less what the current situation is like, hence quotes around "friends".



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30 Nov 2013, 3:44 am

Kjas wrote:
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Well Shau, do what you must. It is possible to keep seeing people as a friend after such things happen, and those friendships can still be valuable. And once one takes the decision of not hit in another person, future interactions with them become more straightforward and without so much doubts. If you think such a friendship would fill you instead of draining you, go for it.


At this point "being friends" is more akin to "managing to not hate each other afterwards".


Mate, do yourself a massive favour and cut contact. You need time to heal. No friendship is going to be possible right now and deep down you know that, so don't try to pretend and just do what's best for you. You don't need anyone's approval, least of all hers.



yeah, thats good advice. Nice guys finish last and all that.