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03 Dec 2013, 5:17 pm

As I am getting a ridiculous amount of this kind of thing recently (never known it so bad in my life):

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Are you working for a museum now? Or do you go on expeditions? Otherwise it's just not worth studying one of the dullest courses in the history, sorry

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Well I like it.


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Why???? God, why??? Choices we make, eh?


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Each to their own.

Them

Thats a cop out statement for unbelievably dull people. You tryin to attract snails



Firstly there is no such thing as a dull person, only a difference in interests between individuals

Secondly I fail to see anything wrong with any of the things that interest me including:

Science, History, Art history, arts and crafts, The theater, kayaking, tennis, horse riding, ghost stories, movies, the coast, marine biology, skiing, water skiing, scuba diving, ghost walks, climbing, weight lifting, swimming, yoga, paleolithic nutrition, Palaeontology, Archaeology, Museums, photography, needle crafts, vintage porn, vintage clothing and underwear, sewing, sketching, painting, theme parks and riding roller coasters, cuddles, loving kisses, hugs, long walks on the beach, short walks through the city, hiking, dancing, martial arts, sharks, ice skating and tai chi.

Just saying.



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03 Dec 2013, 5:23 pm

Bumble' yet another reason I wish you lived nearby. Almost everyone in our family is into scuba diving. You have quite a group of special interests and they all look interesting to me. I also think you would get on great with my kids and older grandkids.



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03 Dec 2013, 5:32 pm

bumble wrote:
Firstly there is no such thing as a dull person, only a difference in interests between individuals


I agree, "dull" is a matter of perspective when applied metaphorically to people.

bumble wrote:
Each to their own


I agree.


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03 Dec 2013, 6:02 pm

They say aspies have a hard time understanding people are not into what they are into and not everyone likes what they like but yet it seems like NTs also have the same issue as well. Where is the line drawn for when something is an aspie thing normal humans do too?


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03 Dec 2013, 6:03 pm

You should remind this person that there is medication available for ADHD.



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04 Dec 2013, 2:33 am

You should tell this person to f**k off and that how you live your life is none of their business. They deserve no better for insinuating that you're "unbelievably dull".


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04 Dec 2013, 3:56 am

vickygleitz wrote:
Bumble' yet another reason I wish you lived nearby. Almost everyone in our family is into scuba diving. You have quite a group of special interests and they all look interesting to me. I also think you would get on great with my kids and older grandkids.



My interests tend to come and go or can change around a lot. Some are minor, some I have spent a lot more time on, some I have yet to try but am in the process of making arrangements, some I have missed out of my list (like the 2 years I spent mostly doing just jigsaw puzzles and the year I insisted on collecting as many sequin art kits as I could instead lol).

My paleo nutrition interest used to be an interest in any links between nutrition/diet and mental health (as well as physical) and is riding off the back of that. Although I don't think diet can cure things like autism (autism is not a mental health issue anyway) I do feel it can play a significant role in depression, anxiety and other disoders like CFS. I had great success at getting rid of all my physical symptoms (digestive included) by eating what I call a clean foods diet (don't drink alcohol often, don't smoke, don't take any medications, don't consume artificial sweeteners or processed foods containing additives, preservatives, colourings, flavourings, MSG etc). I don't use any fancy potions or lotions or supplements (don't believe in them) but I do eat a well rounded diet with foods cooked from fresh...(you can get them all from the supermarket, butcher or veg shops...nothing odd in my list. Also I have links to a site with paleo recipes for things like kale chips, maple walnuts, cinnamon banana coins, beef stews and so on).

So nuts, seeds, eggs, gluten free grains such as oats and brown rice (not strictly paleo), vegetables, fruits, meat and oily fish. I drink mostly decaf coffee, coconut water, smoothies and mineral water. Also sometimes peppermint or camomile tea etc.

I am still struggling with the mood side though even though I have no issues with muscle pains, physical fatigue, dizziness or vertigo, palpitations, diarrhea, acid reflux, abdominal pain as in sharp stabbing pains not emotional upset type pain etc any more.

I still get migraines once a month with aunt flo as well but no where near as frequently as I used to.

I have upped my omega fats and am working on balancing out my exercise program to include weights, cardio and yoga for flexibility. I am still tweaking my schedule.

Sorry babbled a bit there...health has been one of my longest running interests! There are studies I can probably find links to where it does show that omega fats can be more effective against depression than antidepressants and placebo. Just watch your sources as some fish have very high levels of methylmercury which is a neurotoxin. In pregnant women it can damage the nervous system of the developing foetus, in non pregnant people it can still breech the blood/brain barrier and there have been cases of people getting sick from the over consumption of polluted fish.

Needle crafts or cross stitching was also a main hobby for 6 years but now I want to learn to knit and crochet as well. I also do a bit of tapestry these days.

Some I just find interesting to study: English, maths, sociology, psychology and human bio at gcse level, Literature, media studies and drama at A level equivalent and I started a degree in Archaeology and Heritage studies at Uni but never finished it. I have also studied some natural sciences (I do like geology and have a particular liking for all things volcano related including movies such as Dantes peak for example). I also did Business studies nvqs, typing certificates and IT certificates but I most did those for practical reasons...business studies is really boring..I tried it at A level briefly but literally fell aseep during the class!


I don't think I snored.

I do love museums though...I have a pass! I can get into 10 of my local museums for free.....I feel very at home in them. I want to work in one...I actually would love too!

I don't have a main main interest at the moment unless you include the paleo thing....there are some good books I can link people to on that as well although I don't do strict paleo...I adapted it to suit my lifestyle and kept foods that I am ok with such as rice and oats (I only took out gluten grains..not all grains like some paleo people. I also still consume legumes on occasion). It's a very good diet but I don't do the low carb version has I had a really hard time with really bad mood swings on that, especially after coming off the treadmill at the gym! Makes me feel belligerent and light headed without some carbs around my gym session (either before or after).

I am lifting weights to build a little bit of muscle as long as I don't stop looking feminine.

But yes scuba diving is very much on my list. I have not actually tried it yet though, I am looking around for groups or classes.



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04 Dec 2013, 4:18 am

hi,
I have lots of interests including Crabbing, Astronomy, Trains, Planes, Space and Water rockets!

cheers :)



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04 Dec 2013, 4:45 am

Over the years, I've become a lot more tolerant of people's varied interests - not that I was intolerant before. That is...anything that people like is cool by me. Some of their interests interest me as well...others don't and I really don't want to hear about them in any detail. For example...paleo nutrition (and OP, I'm not saying this to pick on you) I saw, I investigated, I dismissed. I don't want to discuss it with people who are fanatic paleo folk because I know we're not going to agree.

But people saying your interests are stupid or boring or whatever are immature and the comments are inappropriate. It may, however, be a strong signal that they dont' want to hear about it anymore as you may not have picked up on earlier cues that they're heard quite enough,

But living with an (undiagnosed) Aspie - I'm not so tolerant about having to hear ENDLESSLY about his special interests. I got sick of him devoting 40+ hours a week in his special interests to the exclusion of family time and a needed focus when our marriage was in crisis - when I was begging him to pay attention to what was going on. We've moved past crisis to biding my time to leave.



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04 Dec 2013, 9:42 am

I avoid talking with or otherwise associating with people who are so disrespectful.

Which may be a big reason why I seldom talk with or otherwise associate with people at all, so meh, whatever. :)


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04 Dec 2013, 12:22 pm

elkclan wrote:
Over the years, I've become a lot more tolerant of people's varied interests - not that I was intolerant before. That is...anything that people like is cool by me. Some of their interests interest me as well...others don't and I really don't want to hear about them in any detail. For example...paleo nutrition (and OP, I'm not saying this to pick on you) I saw, I investigated, I dismissed. I don't want to discuss it with people who are fanatic paleo folk because I know we're not going to agree.

But people saying your interests are stupid or boring or whatever are immature and the comments are inappropriate. It may, however, be a strong signal that they dont' want to hear about it anymore as you may not have picked up on earlier cues that they're heard quite enough,

But living with an (undiagnosed) Aspie - I'm not so tolerant about having to hear ENDLESSLY about his special interests. I got sick of him devoting 40+ hours a week in his special interests to the exclusion of family time and a needed focus when our marriage was in crisis - when I was begging him to pay attention to what was going on. We've moved past crisis to biding my time to leave.


Oh, I like spending time with a partner when I have one...I like intimacy, cuddles and sex. I think I would be upset and biding my time if I never had any affection or time from my partner as well. On saying that I tend to like more alone time than most people can cope with....just not so much alone time that everyone starts to feel neglected. I prefer it when my partner feels very loved.

PS I dismissed some of the paleo stuff, which is why my diet is not strictly paleo or is paleo influenced as I call it. I omitted the stuff I didn't agree with and adopted the bits I did. I always do that...pick bits and pieces of theories I agree with, mix them together and disregard the rest.

I had not really spoken to this chap much, what I posted is pretty much the extent of the exchange, but if I do go on about my interests too much I'd rather people just give me a gentle nudge. I am not an unreasonable person when people are not nasty to me and will usually go out of my way to be helpful. I can just forget sometimes and babble on is all.

The only exception to that is when I have very bad pms, in which case I suggest people leave me alone for a few days as I am not very pleasant at those times (it's like a jekyll and hyde situation most months). Sounds like I'm joking but actually my PMS is terrible and I have been complaining to my dr about it on and off for years. They just won't take it seriously.

I am hoping losing weight, diet and exercise will help.



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04 Dec 2013, 12:33 pm

Willard wrote:
You should remind this person that there is medication available for ADHD.


This reply made me giggle. You are funny lol



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04 Dec 2013, 12:34 pm

heathdogger wrote:
hi,
I have lots of interests including Crabbing, Astronomy, Trains, Planes, Space and Water rockets!

cheers :)


Is crabbing fun?

I have seen people going crabbing in Cromer but have never yet tried it myself.

I was thinking of beach combing for fossils though....



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