my dating profile, toughts?(hopefully not mean)

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What about not faking it, but actually thinking about engaging in an activity? I mean there needs to be some kind of interests that you have. Anyway how nerdy or geeky it might be, try to engage in it. If its about pokemon or Magic the gathering, almost in every city there are groups that you can join for gaming partners ...

In the end, you simply need something to stand out. You were refering about your weight and skinny girls out of your league and .... again. In the end you simply need something, that catches other persons interest. There are different kind of stuff you can focus on, be it your external looks, be it your personality, be it your interests or if all of that lacks, some people make themselve interesting by simply owning money.

But if you focus on absolutely nothing, how can you even get a girls attention. Take a group of men, and one might be quiet handsome and the right one for family and kids, the other one might be a bit nerdy, the other one will be a romantic guy, the next one might be into sports... None of them will fit for every woman, but a woman seeking for someone to settle down will automatically be more interested in Mr. "potential dad", a woman being herself excessive about sport and eating will be automatically more interested in the sporty guy, one that might have herself geeky hobbies might be happy about the nerdy guy because of him hopefully not always bothering her about her shitty hobbies, ...

But if you stand out in abolutely nothing, then which kind of woman could you attract? The one, that seeks someone that catches her interest, because out of absolutely nothing?

If I was into dating, I would not contact someone because of me thinking "I did not find anything really bad in his profile, so its ok." but because of me thinking "Out of this or that reason, I think that guy might be interesting to me." There is no ultimative reason to contact someone, what might attract one girl, could scare the next one off. But without anything standing out, I think you neither will attract nor scare someone.

Dont get yourself again into all the stuff you cant do, but actually think about the stuff you can do. And if you cant do anything, because of your social anxiety, the thing you CAN do is search as example for an internet-forum or group in your area, that focuses on fighting social anxiety. But if you already found out yourself, that on the literally actual spot that you actually are, nothing goes, then you simply need to start doing a step.

I have activities i enjoy, they just cost alot. I use to airsoft(cost $100 per game) but it was too expensive, so I started shooting oddly cost less($20-60) however prices have gone up a lot and my income hasn't. So the only interest i have left that i can simi afford is video games(prices haven't changed since 2006) when We shoot, we are all busy shooting so no pictures. Airsoft sometimes peopletook pictures, and we also did team photos but those pictures are now 3 years old plus guns for some people are a turn off and they need to be slowly introduced to them. so a picture of a guy with guns will turn off most women.
most peoples activity pictures are, parties/bars, sports, or vacations in europe. I as a aspie hate parties/bars, I have no interest in sports, and can't afford travel. So where does this leave me? any pictures I have are old pictures of camping, airsoft, hikes etc. I haven't done those in 2 years.

sadly videogames has gone from something you play with friends in your house to something you play with strangers over the net. I really appreciate your advice about it I just cant see a how for my personal self. Its finding a social accepted activity that is one i also enjoy. to which i draw a blank. I suppose its my personality's fault though I know it could be worst I could be into even more lonely activities, or dark ones. my interest are, military,guns, airsoft, cars, videogames, camping/hiking, prepping, foxes, history, scifi, . I'm ok at them, but not great at anything. sadly not everyone is talented.

how does one show off being romantic, unless being romantic to another girl then why would the lady want a guy whos with another girl. o.O what about the nerdy ugly romantic, husband and kids type? what about women who stand out in nothing, if everyone was talented then talented would be boring and normal, so everyone can't stand out. I'm a decent shot, not great not horrible. I do decent at video games, I can bake and cook but i'm no chef, I can woo women with romance, but meh, I can't play music/dance/sports/art, etc the areas where people stand out in. I never hear the oh hes great at COD, I do here he can play the guitar.again if everyone could, then it wouldn't be impressive no? Is there no love for normal people?
not trying to be mean honestly just trying to understand what to do when I'm just decent at stuff. I don't seem to have natural talent at anything. Take my friend hes a natural excellent shot. My sister is natural gifted in music and crafts.

I was pretty good at making wooden bowls, or at least i enjoyed it, but that was back in high school. I have a wood table and chest that i made, but its not something i can do anymore.


I have nerdy stuff on my proflie, I figured that was enough to show my difference. Yeah I don't know how much more online forums would help lo. I need to find more friends so I can get out. maybe then I'd have activity pictures..but oddly enough making friends is hard then finding a gf. I get and know what to do with a woman, and messaging guys on dating sites is weird.

I liked it, I thought it was friendly and genuine

It seems they deleted my account can anyone see it, I can't log in, i don't know what to do :'(

Well comparing your POF profile to my own... yeah that one you really need to improve on and try to stand out.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=68854527
Pictures aside, there are a lot of differences. Keeping things short and concise is key like I did for the start.

While I am direct, this shows confidence and self-esteem which you need to improve on by what others have stated.

This why you must lose weight.

Sorry.

What does that image represent? I can see at least one guy with a double chin in those pictures (indicating that he's overweight).

well firstly losing weight has never ever changed my face, and i've never gained wieght on my face.

as for the image, then where does I've probably been messaged by over 25 women. Its hard to tell as unlike that imagine I don't keep track of the women who message me.