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19 Feb 2007, 3:15 am

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I wouldn't mind reading it, though I am not sure I want to buy it. I just don't want to have any books about AS sitting around my place, I'm trying to look normal. 8)


What is this 'normal' I keep hearing about... what is normal? Define normal? Do you want to be one of the masses, is that what you mean... is anyone actually 'normal' in all honesty? Who is to say what is and what isn't normal? Make up your own normal.

You can be perfectly normal as soon as you accept the fact that you will never be perfectly normal :lol: I don't really care what normal is, I just get jealous of so called NT people I see sometimes because they seem to get through life a lot easier, especially when they seem to understand people and social interaction well and are popular. This irks me because I can't seem to understand how it works.
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I wouldn't mind reading it, though I am not sure I want to buy it. I just don't want to have any books about AS sitting around my place, I'm trying to look normal. 8)


Try the library. Mine has it, and even if yours doesn't have it, they probably have a copy of the book "Asperger's Syndrome: A guide for parents and professionals" which is by the same doctor. It's essentially the same book, it's just that in "The Complete Guide..." he gives some of the more recent research.

I think my mom has that book, but I don't want to be caught reading them because then it makes it look like I have come out of "denial" about having AS, and I hate talking about it.



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19 Feb 2007, 3:23 am

Space wrote:
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Space wrote:
I wouldn't mind reading it, though I am not sure I want to buy it. I just don't want to have any books about AS sitting around my place, I'm trying to look normal. 8)


What is this 'normal' I keep hearing about... what is normal? Define normal? Do you want to be one of the masses, is that what you mean... is anyone actually 'normal' in all honesty? Who is to say what is and what isn't normal? Make up your own normal.

You can be perfectly normal as soon as you accept the fact that you will never be perfectly normal :lol: I don't really care what normal is, I just get jealous of so called NT people I see sometimes because they seem to get through life a lot easier, especially when they seem to understand people and social interaction well and are popular. This irks me because I can't seem to understand how it works.
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Space wrote:
I wouldn't mind reading it, though I am not sure I want to buy it. I just don't want to have any books about AS sitting around my place, I'm trying to look normal. 8)


Try the library. Mine has it, and even if yours doesn't have it, they probably have a copy of the book "Asperger's Syndrome: A guide for parents and professionals" which is by the same doctor. It's essentially the same book, it's just that in "The Complete Guide..." he gives some of the more recent research.

I think my mom has that book, but I don't want to be caught reading them because then it makes it look like I have come out of "denial" about having AS, and I hate talking about it.


Embrace what you do have instead of regretting what you do not have. You have qualities that they don't have which I am sure you can put to good use. But then, socialising has never been all that important to me. Popularity used to be, but I don't care anymore. And remember, just because things look easy to them, who knows what else happens that you dont see in these peoples lives. Everyone has their challenges to face. The fact you have to try harder just means you will be a darn site stronger.



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19 Feb 2007, 4:04 am

I'm going to make a mental note of Tony Atwood



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19 Feb 2007, 4:50 am

My friend said normal is stereotype. I don't wanna be stereotype, so if someone finds out how to "cure" my reality... oh well you know... Sorry pal... :lol:



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19 Feb 2007, 8:39 am

NTs will drag me off to lunch with them any chance they get. They also like to talk to me like I'm some sort of therapist. They think I'm a good listener. Acutally, they drain me. I didn't have much of the problems in school many of you had because many of them liked my stories and wanted to get to read them. So, I was around them for a great portion of my life (really until I started working in Technology, although they are still around as testers, business analysts, implementation coordinators and project managers). Here's what I've observed. Most of them are emotive feelers (it was intresting when I read about Meyers Briggs and found out most people are Extroverted and Feelers). They are very dramatic. They seem to thrive in that drama. There is always their breakup, someone in the family is breaking up, house problems, kid problems, house projects they are starting which will be house problems next week, work problems. They consistently talk negatively about others. They are jealous of what other people have. They imagine they are paid more, get better assignments, aren't noticed if they aren't working and are promoted based on no merit. That is a huge one. They are terribly insecure. They need a better job at work, their boyfriend isn't worthy, they can find a better girl, their neighbors or co-workers have more, someone has a better car, etc. and it all comes back to why do they have it and I don't. It's truly bizarre to me and I've seen it equally with NT women and men. Big time insecurity and jealousy. I've also noticed they marry without thinking about compatibility and frequently divorce after one or two kids. Then, they complain about their ex-spouse for years, somehow forgetting that it just makes them look ridiculous that they picked someone who has that many problems.


I know that probably sounds like I really dislike them, but I don't. Actually, they are kind of amusing to me because most of what they do they are unaware of and certainly don't analyze although they give that lip service. But, the reason I stay away from them is that they exhaust me. All of that emotional display just exhausts me. I can't deal with it. I either space out on them and go off into my head or I simply say, "Okay, I'm done listening now," and turn around to go back to work. They really overload me. They do get something out of that, but whatever it is, I really don't want it and I don't miss it.



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19 Feb 2007, 12:12 pm

I bought it on sale from the publisher...JKP
It's a very good book.
Tony Attwook knows what he is talking about.
I liked it.



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19 Feb 2007, 5:01 pm

I just finished reading that book. It is the best book about AS i have read so far! Tony Atwood doesn't have AS but he treats ppl with AS with allot of compassion and respect.


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19 Feb 2007, 7:18 pm

Graelwyn wrote:
Space wrote:
I wouldn't mind reading it, though I am not sure I want to buy it. I just don't want to have any books about AS sitting around my place, I'm trying to look normal. 8)


What is this 'normal' I keep hearing about... what is normal? Define normal? Do you want to be one of the masses, is that what you mean... is anyone actually 'normal' in all honesty? Who is to say what is and what isn't normal? Make up your own normal.



normal is similar to the average, the majority, within reasonable tolerances



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19 Feb 2007, 8:22 pm

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As far as I'm concerned, "The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome" is probably the best book for finding lots of reliable info in one spot.


I agree 100% with you. Thats Why I go to that book for so much support. I would really like to meet Dr Atwood to tell him how I feel.



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19 Feb 2007, 8:55 pm

Just ordered my copy from Amazon. It was mighty convenient that my husband told me to order something to take advantage of the SuperSaver shipping special. :lol:


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01 Mar 2007, 10:05 am

bizarre wrote:
I just finished reading that book. It is the best book about AS i have read so far! Tony Atwood doesn't have AS but he treats ppl with AS with allot of compassion and respect.


I agree! :D I've read a lot of reviews about the book and most people agree that it's the best book about AS ever written so far.


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01 Mar 2007, 1:10 pm

I ordered this book instead of the silly "very, very, very, very sensitive people and how totally awesome we are!" book my therapist recommended. Should be receiving it today.



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01 Mar 2007, 3:37 pm

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I ordered this book instead of the silly "very, very, very, very sensitive people and how totally awesome we are!" book my therapist recommended. Should be receiving it today.


Which book did your therapist recommend, out of curiosity? "The Highly Sensitive Person?"



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01 Mar 2007, 5:17 pm

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Which book did your therapist recommend, out of curiosity? "The Highly Sensitive Person?"


Yup.



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12 Mar 2007, 12:06 am

Hamster wrote:
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Which book did your therapist recommend, out of curiosity? "The Highly Sensitive Person?"


Yup.


sounds good for a deodorant slogan :P


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