03 Mar 2007, 10:37 pm
Yeah that's what I've had to start doing - with some good results. It's a bit exhausting though.
I've also started exaggerating the body language though, and really explained what it means. He's really good when he knows what different things mean (me looking away, or hands on hips, or deep sighs...this means OMFG YOU'RE BORING ME SO MUCH [he likes talking about subjects he's interested in for endless hours whether listeners are interested or not] and usually takes note...I can tolerate about 20 minutes of the same subject if not interested, after that my brain starts to melt 
).
More than anything I'm huge on contact, I love being snuggled and touched, and apparently he doesn't mind doing it 
Just has no feckin' clue of when, where or how to do it, so avoids doing it so he doesn't look like an idiot. Frankly I'd prefer him to make a goob out of himself if he at least tries Basically - have had to start being a lot more touchy-feely myself to get the point across, but I did check with him to see if that was alright. I know he's quite sensitive to the touch and don't want to startle him or piss him off 
Apparently from me, he doesn't mind
04 Mar 2007, 1:40 pm
Just has no feckin' clue of when, where or how to do it, so avoids doing it so he doesn't look like an idiot. Frankly I'd prefer him to make a goob out of himself if he at least tries Basically - have had to start being a lot more touchy-feely myself to get the point across, but I did check with him to see if that was alright. I know he's quite sensitive to the touch and don't want to startle him or piss him off Apparently from me, he doesn't mind Looks like you're on the right track. Your boyfriend seems to enjoy (or at least tolerate pretty well) being physical with you, and you're getting what you want. Just be straight with him that you like physical contact, sexual or otherwise. If worse comes to worse, there are always those groping sessions with your friends (be sure to tell us how they went
just kidding), for you to get that daily physical contact fix.
04 Mar 2007, 10:05 pm
Judging by last night...I'd say to guess he does enjoy the physical contact Hurrhurr... 
I think I discovered something interesting about NTs last night too. It was a Sunday...I had to work, major deadlines etc. Woke up, everyone at home was gone. Got to work, worked from 10-6, no one there but me. Got home, saw Mum, thanked her for dinner and that's it. Went out cruising with my car...my guy was busy so I didn't get to see him in the early evening. By about 9pm all it took to reduce me to a teary-eyed mess was ONE Emo song on the radio (from memory it was either Evanescence - Lithium, or that Where'd You Go song by Mike Shinoda...mmmmm, sad stuff). ONE day of being alone and boom...
...thankfully my knight in shining armour came to my rescue...I got snuggles and THEN SOME later in the evening. Somehow he knew I was a heck of a mess after a long, lonely day...
Apparently some of us NTs suffer greatly from solitary confinement 
No wonder I find the Aspie preference for alone time so confusing and hard to grasp :/
08 Mar 2007, 4:41 am
13 Mar 2007, 3:51 am
I've got a few girlfriends so to speak, but they're all as busy as me :/ And eh...I'd really rather spend time with him 
Interestingly enough...I've been pulling 70-90 hour weeks for the last two or three weeks...have hardly seen him at all. And...he's gone into depression And thinks it's probably because he's not seen me much lately...poor boy D:
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