CynicalWaffle wrote:
Amazing double-standards go on in society (including with Aspies), and one of those is: it's okay to be a deadbeat, as long as you're attractive. If you're poor and trying to work, and you live with your parents, that's not okay, but if you're leeching off your parents and not doing crap, it's fine.
Just something I notice that goes on a lot.
If you're supporting elderly and/or disabled parents, I don't have a problem with you living at home. It's the right thing to do. What I have a problem with is parents expecting their kids to take care of them when the burden of caring for parents if the burden is unreasonable. If kids can take care of mom and dad and they WANT to take care of mom and dad, then AWESOME.
And I don't REALLY have a problem with kids staying with mom and dad and mom and dad supporting them after a certain age. What I have a problem is an adult expecting mom and dad to carry them and not contributing anything in return. If any or all of my children want to stay with us indefinitely and support the household through our collective work in the music business, they can bring husbands/wives and grandchildren in for all I care. I'd be thrilled. But you you're going to live at home for the rest of your lives, not contribute to what WE want you to do, live a lifestyle we don't approve of, and ignore household rules, you gotsta go. It's nothing personal. If independence is what you want, we aren't helping you if all we do is enable you by tolerating basement bum behavior. If you can get your own job and support your family, what do you need us for, anyway? Get outta here, get rich, and make us lots of babies already!! !