Insecurity about own body - is it really so common?

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I have room for improvement. I clean up pretty nice, but I'd like to look good naked.

^Same here, it's easy to look good with clothes on.

I guess I'm the exception in this thread. I'm very secure about my appearance, I do workout and am heavy into fitness. I will admit, I do admire myself in the mirror from time to time. All my insecurities come from things that are none physical.

Even though people tell me I'm slender, in a slightly jealous way, I hate my stomach, I feel like it protrudes in an unflattering way and I don't like my sort of flabby biceps. I hate my flat feet and I don't like my knees, so I never wear skirts above the knee.

I am secure with my body. It is my brain that I am insecure with. But I am getting on it.

My body might not be perfect but I was raised hearing: "A lot of girls would love to have a body like you do, you could be a model" all the time because I got everything my mom always wanted to have - slim, slender body, nice face, nice legs. In her opinion she made a great choice getting married to my dad - which I was "lucky" enough to inherit genes after (including look, intelligence and the ASD traits...). His look was the main reason she married him - she always wanted a good looking child. And she archived it. I can't complain about my look.

It's gonna be a great day when I get to take my shirt off at the pool/beach and show off my muscles. For right now though, I just use my body as a way to get into the cold water quick so less people can see me.

Unfortunately, I tend towards being very self-conscious, and often uncomfortable 'in my own skin'. Maybe I got someone else's skin by mistake at birth. It could happen I suppose, when you think about how many people must be born on the same day worldwide. In fact I think I got a Frenchman's skin now that I think about it. I wonder how mine is doing? My real skin that is.

I am ok physical wise, as long as I am close to a good weight and feel somewhat conditioned. If I lose either of those, things do not feel right and do feel insecure. I find myself comparing myself to others unfavorably, very automatically. And it really shouldn't matter, but to my brain it does.

Yes I would have a bad self-image if I were fat.

I watch that midsection like a hawk, not having the handlebars is the only thing really going for me, so I'm gonna hang on to what I've got.

Minority group reporting in here, not insecure. If it wasn't for common decency laws and one or two practical considerations* I'd be perfectly happy to walk around in the scud.

This is not pride. I am not beautiful.

* (like "where do I put my keys without getting piercings?", and "ouch!" after bouncing up or down a flight of stairs)