Women, is i ok to beat your boyfriend?

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You seem like a decent and good-hearted man, so please don't put yourself down. Maybe you've end up feeling less because of not being able to assert your masculinity? Men and woman may have equal rights but they are not equal emotionally and physiologically. A man should be a degree above in authority over a woman.

I'm not saying a man should beat up a woman. No that's unfair as men are physically stronger and so it wouldn't be fair but it's also not right for a woman to think she can do it without any repercussions just because she's a woman. We owe it to such people and to ourselves to let them know that it's not acceptable and that we're not going to sit back and take it. Treat the like with like.

I dont view myself above women although I do agree we are physically stronger than women but when it comes to mentality and emotion women seem to have the advantage and there are some that use it to their advantage to get what they want not all mind you just the ones who want to abuse and exploit those advantages and cut off emotional ties at will for their own gain.

I truly believe that we have been brainwashed into thinking men aren't a degree above women when it comes to being in charge. But by acknowledging alone that a man shouldn't hit a woman, its already suggesting that subconsciously men do feel they are above women as that is why it seems wrong to hit them. And this isn't entirely because women are physically weaker. It's because men know it will be more damaging for a woman on an emotional level. If it were just a case of it being wrong to hit a women back because they are the weaker sex, then it would also be wrong for a man to hit a man weaker than him, but that is not the case.

So whether we agree or not, subconsciously men know they are above women, not in rights, but in authority. Back before women's lib, women were women and men were men and as a result society as a whole was a better place.

Oh and another theory of mine is that women secretly long for men to be in charge of them. But because we've been conditioned to think it is unacceptable and downgrading, that secret longing manifests in women's like for men in uniform. It's a sad and misplaced way of them saying we want men to take charge of us. Truly : )

Well as a man I feel what it takes to do what it is right as long as it does't involve hitting or beating someone weaker than onself and protecting that person but neither do I want a woman to beat on me or take advantage of me but it happens and I don't know what to do and fold over because I wasn't programmed to handle such a situation without becoming a brute which I go against!I will never allow myself to become a violant brute esspecially towards a woman even if it means if the woman is acting the same way towards me in a brutish way so I take a third option and have another woman protect me from that woman.

As a woman myself, if I see a man getting beaten by a woman and he resists hitting her, tries to calm her down but she carries on, I would never think of him as a brute for slapping her one. I'd be like "Yeah man! She deserved it!

That thought occasionally comes to mind but I never act upon it and rather go to the 3rd option and having another woman protect me me and do the work for me although I may be ridiculed for so called sending a woman to do a mans job it prevents me from totally losing my value of being a man! I will no longer be viewed as a man who hits woman and I am defending myself without hitting a woman and sometimes it takes another woman to fight such a battle!

Wouldn't you see that as creating enmity between two people where it didn't exist? It could end up with someone getting badly hurt/dead. hence a slap is a safer option lol.

Well my other ex who was still a good protective friend of mine at the time and acted as my bodyguard and was willing to put her in the hospital after witnessing her abuse against me I advised her to hold back as much as she could while I was not around since mt ex who was my friend has a black belt in karate and wanted to send my abusive ex to the hospital!

Wow that's way more dangerous lololol! Even telling someone to hold back doesn't guarantee they will - esp someone who has fighting skills. Please forgive me for saying. I don't know if this is an aspergian trait or just me but I say things as they are to me and may come across as rude or undiplomatic when I'm definitely not being rude or meaning to hurt anyone's feelings but I really would respect a man who 'fought his own battles'. Trust me, slapping a demented woman attacking you wouldn't make you any less of a man.

I am not blaming the victim, but look at Jezebel's female users comments and the statistics, it's obvious from there that hitting and slapping men is seen less seriously and therefore "not a big deal"; and there's that mentality "he probably deserved it".

If these the genders were reversed, this page would be rightfully bashed and probably closed.

I still think it's wrong for anybody to hit anybody for any reason.

I don't understand. How does that story demonstrate that lesson?

AspieOtaku's story, if anything, suggests the opposite lesson.

Anyway, stories aside, I believe it's OK to hit a woman in exactly the same circumstances when it's OK to hit a man. Gender equality!

It's only ok to "hit" as self defense.

She didn't though but she really wanted to she was really pissed at her for what she did to me and even witnessed it. Shes broken a mans jaw once for trying to mess with her so I could have imagined what she would have done to my abusive ex if she fought her.

It should be the absolute last resort. Even if you're being hit - only if there is no other way to get the abuse to stop.

What is your basis for making this assertion?