Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life?

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Q: Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life?
A1: To answer that question literally and directly, yes.
A2: the comprehensive answer, Some do and some don't, just like happens with other random humans.
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Q: Do people remain virgins for life?
A1: To answer that question literally and directly, yes.
A2: the comprehensive answer, Some do and some don't

I am rather quit sure my grandfather had Asperger's, an uncle is likely, a cousin is likely, my sister is likely, and I am diagnosed. We all have children and/or descendants.

I'm 23 and still a virgin. I feel like my pickiness is one of the things that's kept me from having sex. I know I wouldn't enjoy having sex with a girl who I don't feel an emotional bond with, so having sex with a prostitute is out of the question. There's been a few girls over the years that have been into me, but they weren't my types, so I didn't take things any further than just friendship. I feel like the majority of girls who are my types are either already taken, not interested in me or lesbians. As you can probably tell, I'm not desperate for sex and I don't have a very high sex drive (I only masturbate once a week). I'm actually more interested in a deep, meaningful relationship. In fact, maybe that's also one of the things that's kept me from having sex.

I'm 42 but and still a virgin. I don't really care that I am. I think I might be asexual. But other aspies have had sex and even gotten married and had kids. Not that you *need* to do such things to be happy contrary to what society thinks.

I'm female so naturally there is not as much pressure put on me. For some stupid reason it's okay if teen girls don't do it but not okay if teen guys don't. Like they're not real men until they have forever tainted a woman. I even read somewhere that when some teen guys reach a certain age their fathers get them a prostitute for a birthday present. Gross!

Society thinks guys are always in the mood and want sex, which is not true. We live in an age where having sex can kill you or just completely ruin your life, so I really don't why "virgin" is still seen as a dirty word and something to be hopelessly ashamed of unless you're a priest or a nun. Most people who have sex for the first just want to get rid of their virginity, and have no real love or emotional interest in who they're doing it with. That's just sad.

Some do.

Not gross, great.
Those fathers care for the well being of their sons more than you can ever know.
Those boys will go out into the world and know that, no matter how their life turns out, it's literally impossible for them to be virgins for life.
The emotional and psychological benefits to a young man are incalculable.
Kudos dirty dads!

I hope you’re joking.

And this is why we don't have nice things.

From the point a boy enters puberty, every year that passes that he's still a virgin hurts his self esteem/image just a little bit.
As his self esteem is eroded so are his chances of ever losing his virginity.
In other words with each passing year both his self esteem and his chances of losing his virginity decrease exponentially.
This is a positive feedback loop with profoundly negative consequences.
It affects everything. His outlook. His ability to get a life. To marry. The whole thing.

For people that generally have serious self esteem/self worth issues and who's capacity for independent thought is legendary, I really expected a more enlightened response.
Seriously, you really wish other young men/boys the same hard time you had of growing up? What bottomless selfishness.

The idea that seeing a sex worker is a legitimate treatment for self-esteem issues for a young man rather than something like working through with a therapist why his self-esteem is so tied up with how many women he's had sex with is a really messed up idea. That might be why you're not getting a lot of agreement here.

14 year olds worry about their virginity. Grown men don't.

The ones who didn’t lose theirs do. Trust me 20-50 olds still talk about it and make fun of guys who haven’t lost theirs. In my auto class my partner a possible aspie mistakenly told others when asked he was a virgin and they teased him about it. I’m smart enough to know not to tell. I got teased enough by grown men to know not to tell men yiur a virgin. Even still grown men always tease men they don’t like as being virgins who live in their moms basement. It’s seen as a huge negative to men that it’s the ultimate go to insult when you dislike another man.
Most men though lose theirs at 15/16 or well before 20. Which is why most men don’t worry about their own virginity cause they already lost it. Irritating they approve and support the male friends and sons to lose theirs with a woman, but are super protective and horrified if their 25 old daughter has sex. I must wonder for men who have bother male and female children do they not realize that in order for their son to lose his someone else’s daughter will lose hers? Even bunch of women though want their son to lose it. Just like how a lot of men and some women think it’s ok for a adult female teacher to sex with their 16 old son. It’s usually me and a bunch of moms who are like no that’s wrong and horrible. Most guys are like “ omg that lucky kid, I wish some hot teacher had sexed me when I was in school” or “ boys will be boys”

I know that high school never ends, but I'm trying to grow out of that.

Except for many men, losing virginity to a prostitute wouldn't feel like losing virginity at all.

To feel being desired is an essential part of the experience.

It’s not a high school thing it’s a society thing. Kids don’t think that stuff up on their own it’s pushed on them by the media. They see it in tv and movies, they see celebrities say it so they are like I need to lose my virginity or I’ll be a loser.

Most interesting.
Who knows, if you're born male in your next life, you might just be in a position to make that determination.