Is depression more common among aspies?

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DINK stands for dual income, no kids.

Yes but if you were a DINK you could pay off your debt and/or morgadte more easily due to shared living expenses.

Actually I know a few welfare DINKs who have their payment reduced to about 60% due to their shared living expenses.

In some areas women have kids after 40 so they can focus on their careers. Also who says you both have to be the same age? There are lots of couples with age discrepancy, you could be 40 and she could be 28, meaning better odds that she doesn't already have kids.

I mean, I get frustrated too when I go on dating sites and see young women with kids (why do they have to start so young)? I'd like to find a childless woman too, hopefully one willing to stay that way (in my case).

But think of how happy you could be as a DINK?.. or maybe that's just me.

Anyway you think you have it hard trying to find a woman who doesn't already have kids? Imagine how much harder it is to find a woman who doesn't have kids and doesn't ever want to have them? That's about 1% of women. Most of the women 25+ looking for a long term relationship are doing so specifically so they can have kids. A lot of the ones who don't want kids also don't want a guy, or the ones who give up motherhood for their career are career women who expect likewise from their partner and I don't yet have a career.

Come to think of it, maybe you're the right age to find a 25+ year old woman who doesn't yet kids. I mean, for the ones who don't finding a guy to have kids with is often a part of the female version of the quarter life crisis. They grow out of their phase of liking bad boys and due to their age they become desperate to find a stable guy who also wants kids and also doesn't yet have them. Trust me I've seen a 35 year old woman almost in tears because she didn't yet have kids. I couldn't work out what the big deal was but I guess not everyone is like me (one of life's most oft repeated lessons).

Yeah but Star Trek has had many writers. Remember how he was in Encounter at Farpoint? That was written a lot earlier than Generations.

its confusing system i think it only implies to marriage. cause they could just be two roommates living together. I live with my mom and neither of ours are decreased. though maybe its people they consider couples. which seems unfair cause doesn't seem different then me living with a friend also on ssi. anyways I've never met a woman under 40 who's on ssi/ssdi/welfare. I think they are rare. certainly see there's some here but they all live in other states.

eww. also women aren't attracted to me now when i'm the same age so they definitely won't be when i'm 20 years older the them.

its a trend now lots of kids have kids in middle-highschool.

i'd have to watch all our friends have kids and all the amazing things that come with raising kids.

1% of 300 million is still a lot . theres a bit of women who want guys but don't want kids and those who want kids but not guys.

they want the perfect guy to have kids with

sadly the middle class is dying

mean while the lower class people who match up have 1-5 kids and manage fine, sure no fancy family vacations to disneyland but ohwell.

didn't know that. but his character changes then, unless one chooses to pretend later seasons don't exist.

Down here it includes "de facto" couples and "common-law marriage". In other words it includes any couple that lives under the same roof.

As when I was living with Mum, no reduction in payment except that I wasn't getting rent relief. Actually the Australian welfaire system is kind of complicated and inconstant. I know double welfare couples who combined get less than I do.

As for women under 40 who are on welfare, I know several. The thing about living in a poor neighbhorhood is that at least everyone else here is poor too. I don't have to get income envy unless I travel out of my suburb.

However, I don't know any single women on welfare. Come to think of it, I don't know any single women at all. That makes it hard. Since both sexes exist in equal numbers there should be someone for everyone but it seems like all the girls are taken.

I was thinking more like 5 years older. Remember girls don't think the same way guys do. They don't mind having a partner slightly older than them. Maybe it's cultural, maybe it's physical or maybe it's because girls mature faster than boys so girls need to compensate.

But not for all of them, any girl smart enough to have a career is smart enough to have heard of contraceptives. That's what I don't get about unplanned parenthood, how can they not be able to use something so simple as contraceptives?

Yes and their kids will call you Uncle. You don't need to have nieces or nephews to be an uncle. Would be content to take on the avuncular role?

More like 22 million in my case
But I think neither one of us wants to leave our towns. Not me anyway, all my friends live here and it would take me ages to get a new set of friends.

No man is perfect but if they want a guy to have kids with then they find you have one less flaw than I do. At least you're actually willing to have kids with them. That gives you a bigger pool of potential partners.

That's the best thing that could happen to you. If the middle class dies women won't restrict themselves to only dating a demographic that no longer exists. If women want the best man they can find and the middle class man doesn't exist than someone else then the best man they can find won't be middle class. If the middle class is reduced to a small fraction of the population then will 100 million women try to go after 1 million men? No. The other 99 million women will go after the other 99 million men.

If the middle class disappears that would equalize you. You'll then be in the same class as everyone else. No worse than anyone else. You could be poor either way but you've got better odds if everyone else is poor.

That proves that you need not be middle class to have kids.

Also, remember when you said;

So you needn't think you need to join the middle class to become a father.

A bit of both. Star Trek writers often pretend earlier seasons don't exist. Some of them hadn't watched the earlier seasons. Some of the disinterested writers just saw it as another potboiler until they could get their movie script filmed.

On the other hand I think it could've been genuine character development for Picard, how he went from hating Wesley (15 in season 1 but like many child actors he was cast because he looked about 3 years younger than he was)... he went from hating Wesley to liking him while at the same time the viewers started hating him more and more. Picard also had some character development where he learns to tolerate the other kids on board (after Wil Wheaton started looking to old to fill that role).

Maybe Picard's dislike of children stemmed from his jealousy that he had none... but they sure didn't make it look that way in Generations.

Down here it includes "de facto" couples and "common-law marriage". In other words it includes any couple that lives under the same roof.

As when I was living with Mum, no reduction in payment except that I wasn't getting rent relief. Actually the Australian welfaire system is kind of complicated and inconstant. I know double welfare couples who combined get less than I do.

As for women under 40 who are on welfare, I know several. The thing about living in a poor neighbhorhood is that at least everyone else here is poor too. I don't have to get income envy unless I travel out of my suburb.

However, I don't know any single women on welfare. Come to think of it, I don't know any single women at all. That makes it hard. Since both sexes exist in equal numbers there should be someone for everyone but it seems like all the girls are taken.

I was thinking more like 5 years older. Remember girls don't think the same way guys do. They don't mind having a partner slightly older than them. Maybe it's cultural, maybe it's physical or maybe it's because girls mature faster than boys so girls need to compensate.

But not for all of them, any girl smart enough to have a career is smart enough to have heard of contraceptives. That's what I don't get about unplanned parenthood, how can they not be able to use something so simple as contraceptives?

Yes and their kids will call you Uncle. You don't need to have nieces or nephews to be an uncle. Would be content to take on the avuncular role?

More like 22 million in my case
But I think neither one of us wants to leave our towns. Not me anyway, all my friends live here and it would take me ages to get a new set of friends.

No man is perfect but if they want a guy to have kids with then they find you have one less flaw than I do. At least you're actually willing to have kids with them. That gives you a bigger pool of potential partners.

That's the best thing that could happen to you. If the middle class dies women won't restrict themselves to only dating a demographic that no longer exists. If women want the best man they can find and the middle class man doesn't exist than someone else then the best man they can find won't be middle class. If the middle class is reduced to a small fraction of the population then will 100 million women try to go after 1 million men? No. The other 99 million women will go after the other 99 million men.

If the middle class disappears that would equalize you. You'll then be in the same class as everyone else. No worse than anyone else. You could be poor either way but you've got better odds if everyone else is poor.

my neibhor is pro homless peope but anti welfare its a bit confusing.

we only have 9million people on disbility welfare here, for 300 million over the whole usa. so i feel the odds of finding one in that that 3% is going be quite hard here, and reduce that by elminating ones out of age range, have kids, and not single and you start to see the problem of limiting self to just others in the same situation.

our gov here will pay for abortions(cost in the hundreds to thousands) but won't pay for condoms that cost $6 for 12.

whats avuncular role?

I would probably be ok with moving but have anxiety.

even still they probably still spend time going after the few good ones competing til its too late..

3% of the total population is on ssi/ssdi, not 3% of women. so maybe half that 3% are women, etc

generally people on the system like me and sweetleaf get it, we understand the struggles and need of it, anyone who hasn't been on it never will and tend to see it as wasteful, stealing, or as bad.