I have said to some people specifically, "Please tell me if I am being annoying/being a pest."
I also have made it clear that I *need* things spelled out for me because I will not catch hints.
No one has told me yet that I am being annoying or being a pest. So, I continue to do what I do. Maybe I am being a pest, but if they don't tell me that I am, then I'm not going to stop being the way I am and they will have to live with it.
I still am afraid that I am being annoying, though. It doesn't take away that anxiety. I feel like I am stuck because I can't even properly say that it is because I have AS, because I have not been diagnosed. Every online test I take says the same thing - likely an Aspie. And it is the only thing that, to me, seems to explain the way I am. Sometimes I just want to spill all the beans with a few people and say, "I know you know I am different and a little odd - this is why."
Just last week at church, I was talking to a friend and we got talking about how things were for us as kids. I said I was a pretty weird kid, and there were probably still vestiges of that weirdness. He chuckled and said, "You said it, not me." So, I really am coming across a lot weirder than I think. I think I act pretty normal at church. Apparently, even normal for me is a little weird.