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18 Oct 2014, 8:31 pm

I think that I'm annoying some people but I don't know if I'll annoy them by asking them if I am.

Social conventions suck...


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18 Oct 2014, 8:57 pm

at least they will know, in case that you are being annoying, that you are not doing it on purpose.



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18 Oct 2014, 9:01 pm

Unless they're really pissed off, they'll usually say no even if you are, so it's kind of pointless.


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18 Oct 2014, 9:17 pm

Butterfiend wrote:
I think that I'm annoying some people but I don't know if I'll annoy them by asking them if I am.

Social conventions suck...




I wouldn't bother, people are too polite to tell you even if you do ask. Unless they are pissed off as Who Am I said.


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18 Oct 2014, 9:29 pm

I have said to some people specifically, "Please tell me if I am being annoying/being a pest."

I also have made it clear that I *need* things spelled out for me because I will not catch hints.

No one has told me yet that I am being annoying or being a pest. So, I continue to do what I do. Maybe I am being a pest, but if they don't tell me that I am, then I'm not going to stop being the way I am and they will have to live with it.

I still am afraid that I am being annoying, though. It doesn't take away that anxiety. I feel like I am stuck because I can't even properly say that it is because I have AS, because I have not been diagnosed. Every online test I take says the same thing - likely an Aspie. And it is the only thing that, to me, seems to explain the way I am. Sometimes I just want to spill all the beans with a few people and say, "I know you know I am different and a little odd - this is why."

Just last week at church, I was talking to a friend and we got talking about how things were for us as kids. I said I was a pretty weird kid, and there were probably still vestiges of that weirdness. He chuckled and said, "You said it, not me." So, I really am coming across a lot weirder than I think. I think I act pretty normal at church. Apparently, even normal for me is a little weird.



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19 Oct 2014, 1:22 am

I don't think there's any point in asking, it'll just make them uncomfortable. And as others have already said, adults wouldn't say that. That is gonna be way too out of their comfort zones, unless they're really ticked off.


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19 Oct 2014, 8:57 pm

Thanks for the input guys. I think I'll just give my friend That I'm afraid of annoying some space, and tell her she can tell me if I'm annoying her.


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