Repair People not Understanding Sound Sensitivity.

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I'ts sad to see that you are hurt by this and good to see auntblabby's compassion .

I don't think the other posters were blaming you, though. This seems like one of those communications mismatches stereotyped as male/female: she just wants to be heard and some sympathy and sharing, he thinks the goal is to listen for the parameters of the problem and then propose actions to fix it.

The posters who seemed insensitive were just trying to help with practical advice.

I don't think looking for fault is helpful in this kind thing. It is not your fault and it is not the repair people's fault--it's just the way things are.

I hope you find a way to protect yourself from these sensory shocks/assaults and I hope you feel better and realize that people are not necessarily finding ad fault when they offer analysis instead of sympathy.

It's difficult not to make it about fault after years of being punished in high school for having a "sound phobia" Also this triggered PTSD flashbacks to when I was too anxious to sleep after being tormented by teachers and bullies, only to be woken up anxious and screaming not to have to go back to school.

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Last edited by Sweetleaf on 02 Nov 2014, 10:08 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Wow i wasn't trying to be mean or blame you at all actually...was actually trying to be helpful. I was not saying it would be good to maybe leave the house during the noise because you should accommodate everyone else, more because its something I do for peace of mind when there is going to be noise.

Also sure the repair people should warn you if they are going to start using a drill or something loud if you ask, but I was just meaning they might end up deep in concentration and not be able to warn you before every single noise...I don't know I just find it easier to go somewhere else when there is too much noise. I have pretty noticable sensory issues and PTSD so I certainly know how unpleasant that can be...but I also know other people aren't as sensitive so even when they try to be considerate if I am too on edge/stressed normal amounts of noise can even get to me so I have to go somewhere quiet.

But sorry for my response I guess...or if it came off as toxic or whatever.

Are you on medication for this? I found Serequel to really help me to deal with sensory stimuli.

The sound of tools and construction equipment is one of the worst. I live in midtown and they did this huge waterworks project this summer. It was awful.

Anyway, I think your sound issues require attention as they are effecting your life. Maybe you could talk to a doctor about it.

I tried seeing a doctor to find out if something is wrong with my ears, after a test that caused me to meltdown begging to go home and rest, the doctor kept saying I should contiue the tests. No compassion that I was overwhelmed, they just treated me like a naughty child having a tantrum, and they weren't going to give into it by showing concern. I haven't tried again, seems when doctors hear someone has Autism they just hear naughty baby who won't obey." I had to recover from that too, they would threaten me with not letting me go home after school.

I take Zoloft, I have Valium for anxiety and insomnia. I tried Seroquel, but it made me feel like I had brain fog. I'm better, I even managed to wath some of the horror film Cabin in the Woods. It's when I don't know to expect the sound I get upset. Horror films are okay because I know there will be jump scares, and I watch them at home so I have control over the volume. My psychiatrist said they worked like immesion therapy. In other words by all logic you'd think horror films would make my sound sensitivity and anxiety worse, but it makes it better. My guess it's knowing the anxiety isn't permanent. Also like a recent Geico ad where they make fun of how characters make poor decisions in horror films, they can be funny. I mean schaudenfreude is funny if it's fake.

Yeah, it does that. You seem to have some good coping skills. Just remember that the workers won't be there forever. It can be like exposure therapy. Maybe you could get those earplugs and try reading while they're there.

I have a baseball bat I call the understanding stick. Understand that I'm a little different or get the hell off my property.