How do you cope with extreme sadness?

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I go through very deep depressive episodes sometimes. Its part of Aspergers and the fact that I'm a deeply emotional person. I "feel" through energy, other people's emotions as my own. Its not that I feel bad for any logical reason myself. Its that my body picks up emotions in others and it can really wipe me out. I need better methods to cope when it hits. Music is okay, but what do you do to reach out to others, when the sorrow you are feeling is there but not your own and you can't make it go away?

Depending on how the person are feeling, it would vary from person to person but still, showing that you care about a person could well turn a persons negative emotions into a positive which on the other hand would be a very great thing on your part.

If they don't accept it, it's easy to say just let it go that though but it is harder when you do try to let it go.

One of your issues you maybe facing (some may agree or disagree) is you may need to find some time to find out more about yourself, find yourself what your good at in particular that could divert those negative energy. Finding that sketching alone normally helps me because I'm able to just sketch or paint my emotions somewhere along the line on a piece of paper or to write.

I think I may have a similar issue, if I find that people around me feel a certain way, for some reason I seem to pick up on that too. Are you trying to reach out to somebody who is every depressed which is causing you to also feel the same way? Sometimes, you will find that when your in a negative environment, you'd find your emotions would be pretty negative.

I reach out to someone I trust.
I get the rest I need.
I tell myself that it has passed before and will pass again.
I mourn for losses that have happened.
I try to be kinder to myself, as I would be to someone else who was suffering this kind of pain.
I stay away from people who want to diminish me for whatever reason.
I spend time with people who want to love and affirm me, whatever is going on for me.

I've done long runs on cool nights, but mostly I think it just helps to learn to separate yourself from thoughts and feelings to a degree. To be able to step back and look at them for what they are to figure out where they're coming from. We have them, but they aren't us, if you know what I mean.

I post an excerpt of my sad life story to a random forum on the internet, like this one, trying and failing to relate and mean something to someone. Then I go to bed at 5 AM or whenever the sleepiness overpowers the sadness.