A cost of loneliness: no more cats

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I recently lost my last cat to cancer. I lost all three in the last two years.

Caring for cats, by myself, has been very difficult and stressful. I have nobody to help me hold them for medication or feeding, nobody to feed them or medicate them if I can't get home, so I could never leave home for any length of time, I have nobody to care for them if *I* get sick, I have nobody to share in the vet visits or the home care so I can continue working, I have nobody to share the costs with, and most importantly, I have nobody to support me when I am stressed or sad. Also, I'm not confident I'll outlive another cat.

So, reluctantly, I've decided that I can't have cats anymore. I won't be getting another.

Of course this just makes me more lonely.

I am so so very sorry for your loss. That's too much grief for one person to bear, I hope you find a way to feel better soon.

Not sure if it helps, but I know exactly how you feel. I am constantly living in stress because of the worry about my cats. This summer I lost one to a car accident and it was horrible, I am still very upset about it and even more worrying about the other two now. I don't travel anywhere because I don't want them to be upset and I constantly fret about what would happen to them if I were to die.

Probably this is how other people feel about their family, but somehow, I don't feel like that about humans, just animals. I guess we all have to have something to feel bad about - if it's not worry about those you love then it's the feeling of being all alone with noone around.

Maybe you could volunteer in a cat shelter instead - that way you get to spend time with cats and lonely cats get some human love while they wait for their forever home.

Be well.

Thanks, Plum. I'm sorry for your loss, too.