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Falloy
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10 Dec 2014, 9:50 am

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Yes I do both of these. And in general I obsess over anything other people say/do that I don't understand, or anything that didn't go smoothly, and try to figure out why it went wrong.

Even when I make a very small mistake (like forgetting to say "thank you" over some trivial thing) I keep thinking about it over and over again.


I do this. I obsess over small mistakes literally for decades. It makes me reluctant to enter situations where there is a risk of me making a mistake because if I make one I know how long the pain of it will be with me.

It is only with my recent diagnosis that I have begun to learn that not everything is my fault, that I "should have known better".



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10 Dec 2014, 10:15 am

Falloy wrote:
dianthus wrote:
Yes I do both of these. And in general I obsess over anything other people say/do that I don't understand, or anything that didn't go smoothly, and try to figure out why it went wrong.

Even when I make a very small mistake (like forgetting to say "thank you" over some trivial thing) I keep thinking about it over and over again.


I do this. I obsess over small mistakes literally for decades. It makes me reluctant to enter situations where there is a risk of me making a mistake because if I make one I know how long the pain of it will be with me.

It is only with my recent diagnosis that I have begun to learn that not everything is my fault, that I "should have known better".


Yep, I have avoided certain situations and activities as well, for fear of making mistakes or generally not doing very well at them.


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10 Dec 2014, 4:31 pm

Falloy wrote:
It makes me reluctant to enter situations where there is a risk of me making a mistake because if I make one I know how long the pain of it will be with me.


Unfortunately it doesn't seem to have that effect on me...in some cases I would have been better off if I had been more reluctant to take risks and make mistakes.


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10 Dec 2014, 4:42 pm

I know that mistakes are part of learning, but I still beat myself up about them... I'd probably even beat myself up if I wasn't making mistakes lol... If you're not making mistakes, you're probably not doing anything, and that's a mistake in itself! Beating yourself up about mistakes is illogical, but we're human :shrug:


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10 Dec 2014, 5:04 pm

YES, but it doesn't paralyze me as much as before and it comes and goes. Am accepting that I don't have to be perfect and that whatever it was probably didn't really affect the other person as much as it did me. I hate people thinking I am rude when I didn't intend to be or didn't mean to show it.