Compliments

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I'm the same way about giving compliments and I don't know why either. Maybe I feel it's because it might give me some intimate connection with a person that I don't want. I'm usually indifferent about receiving compliments too.

i have difficulty recieving compliments as well. sometimes will just make me paranoid.

but giving compliments is not that hard to me. mostly you just have to be honest. standart, unfounded, or exaggerated compliments wont do much, but anything said uprightly and meant, without being blunt, would work, (that counts for other types of criticism as well mostly). the tricky part may be to estimate if its appropriate or not, in the situation and considering how you relate with that person.

'nice boobs' is no good, obviously. but if you find something about a person that you like specifically about that person, that you wouldnt be saying about most other persons, that should work.

I do receive my fair share of compliments!

. . . . . . . . Compliments a CHILD would receive!! !

Somehow I just don't know how to complement well. I tell the truth well though. I've learned not to complement unless it is purely spontaneous truth. And I take them horribly. I've found that it is easier to play up the vain fool, then to try to deal with them in a reasonable manner.

Sometimes. I get compliments and say things like, "I know." Sometimes I get so high off this that I start just handing them out to myself. Narcisism is almost always a sign of low self-esteem.

I can't take compliments at all. On my last teaching practice my tutor told me that he couldn't have taught the lesson any better and I couldn't even look at the guy. I just stood there frozen and then said "okay, well I'll see you tomorrow". I wrote him a letter at the end to say thank you for being so complimentary.

As for giving compliments, it often never even crosses my mind, but when i do it tends to make people look at me like I'm a freak. The other day I said "I like your watch" and everyone looked at each other in that way that people look at each other when I say things.

Your "I like your watch" statement reminded me of my wife. She always said things like that, and people would look oddly at her. Thanks.

I enjoy complimenting people and I don't mind receiving them (as long as it's respectful). It's just a normal thing for me, and it can encourage others to continue doing the things they love to do.
Whenever I positively compliment my mom's cooking, for instance, she would feel delighted, thankful, and encouraged to continue her cooking. Whenever my dance instructor positively compliments the way I dance, I feel good about myself and encouraged to continue my dancing.

Usually I either respond well receiving compliments or not well. For instance - when I receive a compliment from certain friends, or even better imo, from people I barely even know, I take it to heart. I'm touched lol. Receiving them from others, especially when people compliment my guitar playing, I tend to feel awkward... I do like receiving them, just that I don't respond well...
I give them out on occasion... usually to girls I like. Also to real close friends, and people who help me out.

Compliments can be the best thing in the world and I love recieving them but I dont know how to give them.

I don't mind giving them, although I give them rarely--if I give out a compliment, I mean it.

Getting them... I don't get. I get complimented on my intelligence fairly often and I still haven't learned how to accept them without making other people feel bad. :/ And on the rare occasion I get complimented on something else, I've _no_ idea on how to handle it except "oh, thanks!" *shrinks a little*

I love getting them, don't get me wrong, I just never know what to say.