Does anyone else here just not get along with neurotypicals?

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Tough question for me, I'm struggling to find anybody I've known in my entire life who was NT. I was only diagnosed a few years ago, and I haven't taken much interest in all that many people over my entire life, at least not enough to hazard much of a guess. Currently I think all my friends (about 10, most of them I don't see often) are either Aspies or they seem to have something eccentric going on.

First wife was very likely NT. I ended up disliking her, because of her being so social, and we didn't understand each other, there was a lot of friction that looks like textbook AS-NT conflict to me.

First boss, NT female, I hated her for being lazy, selfish, arrogant, aggressive, dishonest, slu*ty and hateful. Could have been a narcissist though, do they count?

One male buddy, I really dug him for a long time, but he moved with the times with fashion and music, and became a pain in the butt slagging off whatever was yesterday's model, like my favourite bands. Also didn't like they way he and his partner flirted with everybody, and were so comfy with lying to each other. I guess that's an NT thing? Not accusing them of evil, just being different about these things. He must have been NT, he was so sociable.

One guy at the youth club impressed me as a decent human being. Good social skills, inclusive, relaxed, genial, helpful, cheerful. Didn't know him long but what I saw was good.

Biggest indicator of how well I get along with NTs is probably the small number of them in my life. Long before being diagnosed, I was avoiding the mainstream like the plague, and favouring the fringes of society, shunning convention. I guess most NTs are part of the mainstream. If I see a herd, I usually avoid it. That aversion must have come from somewhere. Best guess, I didn't get along with the herd (NTs) and I learned to filter them out before I had much conscious information, like the way people are supposed to unconsciously choose their partners.

But I do know NTs exist that I could get on with. Like that youth club guy. I don't think it's a person being NT that wrecks everything for me. There's a colossal range of personalities and values out there.

I get along fine with certain NT's (my parents, the people at EB games), but for the most part I don't care to be around them.

I've only met a handful of diagnosed Aspies and I didn't find them particularly interesting. They were very quiet and had a quite limited range of conversation due to restricted interests.

I find most NTs are extremely boring. Many of them have no interests and talking to them is a pointless exchange of opinion about the weather. Some NTs are far more interesting. They have wider interests and they don't want to talk about vacuum cleaners or washing machines. I usually find the extroverts annoying because they tend to be louder and I have sensory issues with noise. I get on best with people who have strong autistic traits but not enough for a diagnosis. They are eccentric, driven but they have the socials skills required for an interesting conversation.

I don't get along with obnxious dickweeds.
Fortunately, most NTs don't fall into that category.

I get along with most NT just fine, as long as they're pleasant people. There are some types I just can't get along with. Their personalities clash so badly with mine. These people tend to be very dominant (I'm very dominant), loud, aggressive, self-centered, narrow-minded, and basically don't like thinking. Luckily they're easy to spot so I usually never try to start a relationship. Another type I don't get along with are sensitive people who are easily offended. That means I can't be myself and say what I want in front of them, and that gets tiring fast. i.e. If I tease someone, they laugh and tease me back, that's us having a good time. If I tease someone and they burst into tears, walk away and post online about their horrible experience, that's us not clicking at all.

I didn't find other aspies any easier to get along. I understand them better of course, but two people both with social skills trouble can hardly expect smooth communications all the time.

I can get along with almost anyone. I am not quick to judge. The only people who I don't like are those who are catty, and rude to others and me.

People who don't like me are usually serious people because oftentimes I am mischievous and not so serious. I think this is why I don't get a long with a lot of aspies. A lot of people with Aspergers I know act older for their age, and are serious-natured. I am quite the opposite of that.

All my friends seem at least somewhat neurodiverse in some way.

many of them are unaware of it, tho. But now that I successfully self diagnosed (and subsequently proven right by 3 specialists), I feel qualified to diagnose my friends, although I don't always tell them...

I find people in general to be hard to read....

Over the years I've become less obvious in not interacting with NTs. Most recently I skirted around the fact that I had no idea which teams were in the Super Bowl. And then I had no idea who Brian Williams was so I had to google the name and am still puzzled by why NTs are so fascinated by him.

I can get along with most NTs, as long as they're friendly. The kinds of people I don't get along with are a) rude people, and b) really quiet or reserved people. I'm pretty quiet and shy myself, so it's hard for me to engage someone who is also quiet. I'd rather the other person take the lead.

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I have serious trust issues with NT because by almost every single one I have been betrayed in some way. At one point even my teacher turned on me while he was acting all nice to me before. I have experienced far too often that someone wanted to be my friend or was flirting with me but ending up in just a prank together with their pathetic friends.

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