I can't seem to be used by people. When I feel I am being used by a fair-weather friend (is that the right spelling?), I would pick up on it and back away, and then that person would get mad because they found they can't use me like they thought they could, and then they suddenly dislike me and never want to be my friend again.
If I want to be used, then I will. I will be aware of it, but if I'm happy about it then I will let them continue, even if I know it's wrong. If I really don't want to be used, then I will back out straight away. And I don't believe everything people say either. In fact, I found that I am very good at sussing people's intentions out, and whether they are lying or not, and why they would lie about it, and what I should and shouldn't say, and how I can manipulate the situation by choosing to either act naive and play along, or to actually catch them out. I usually just play along, to avoid conflict, but if I feel I really should let them know that I'm not as stupid as I look, then I will, in a polite sugarcoated way, of course. I am not the type to be blunt with people. I find that too awkward.
Most social cues I understand. I know and understand why a lot of people lie in certain situations, and how emotions affect people, and how people treat each other depending on their relationship or a situation etc, and how and why people gossip, and what you should and shouldn't say to people and so on. Most Aspies just think that the best thing to do is be blunt about everything, and that's OK if you don't feel guilty or awkward around people. I sometimes I feel like I work differently than other Aspies. My NT boyfriend often tells me to think logically, because I do seem to think more irrationally and I think in emotions.
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