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29 Jun 2015, 9:38 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:
I don't see anything wrong with the guys being the initiator. It just seems natural, somehow.

I'd have missed out on opportunities if I just waited around for a guy to initiate. I don't have guys approaching me all the time like some people seem to suggest happens to most women. It doesn't feel natural at all to me to miss out on wonderful experiences in life just because, as a female, I'm not supposed to be the initiator. Plus, lesbian relationships couldn't possibly exist if this "natural rule" was in place across the board.



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29 Jun 2015, 11:17 pm

LOL....I never said there's anything WRONG with a lady being the initiator.

I was only asked out by a woman once in my life. I was 17, and she turned out to be too crazy for me.



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29 Jun 2015, 11:35 pm

Whou hou ! Lesbian-Relationships ! :D

yellowtamarin wrote:
Plus, lesbian relationships couldn't possibly exist if this "natural rule" was in place across the board.


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30 Jun 2015, 1:01 am

yellowtamarin wrote:
I don't have guys approaching me all the time like some people seem to suggest happens to most women.


I've seen mostly women, not suggesting it happens, but complaining how much it does.

I know harassment is a real problem and don't want to make light of it, but it's hard to relate to those complaints from a male and inexperienced point of view, let alone if you add aspie to the mix, because it reads to us, "I know I'm so exquisitely desirable to you, and it irks me because a disgusting and worthless thing like you should be very aware you have no business approaching me in a million years".


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30 Jun 2015, 1:48 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
Because guys are still expected to make the first move, approach and ask out first, be the initiator.

It wouldn't be such a big deal if those moves wouldn't result in a rejection every single time.



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30 Jun 2015, 5:31 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
Because guys are still expected to make the first move, approach and ask out first, be the initiator.


not fair for many guys, oh wait, I forgot, life is not meant to be fair