I'm done chasing guys

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Hi, everyone.

I have decided that I'm finished trying to find a boyfriend. After being rejected or shot down long ago, I am going to focus on God, family, friends, and school.

Any comments or objections or do you feel the same way?

QS;

I didn't marry until I was almost 33 years old and some of that was waiting on THE right one given by God. It worked, it was wonderful, then we both made mistakes and it wasn't wonderful and we divorced. Then God still works in you and with you and you continue to make life work.

I think it is good that you can focus on God, family etc. But it doesn't have to be all or nothing. Sometimes life tricks you that way, you stop looking and someone interesting shows up.

So keep God in the picture and follow His discernment for making life work.

I'm sorry you're going through a tough time with finding a satisfactory partner.

Maybe it would be good for you to stop chasing guys. Let the guys do the chasing!

It's your life and your decisions to make. I don't see why our objections would matter unless you want advice on how to not give up.

I might return to the search down the road, but my latest attempts have left me very unhappy and lonely. Maybe someone will wander in while I'm cultivating my writing, my knowledge, and my health... maybe not.

I am sick of chasing girls, But you know, kissing is just a meaningful thing. Makes me more close, like I am able to connect myself.

Yah who needs men? I certainly don't need a man in my life.




Well i'm not gay so thats why...

Life can be ironic (and difficult) sometimes.

Many people have tried really hard to accomplish certain things, and fail, yet other people don't seem to try at all, and have things fall in their lap.

My suggestion:

Keep on the lookout for someone new, but don't focus all of your energy on that one thing alone. Go do what you love, in the mean time.

I think that there's no reason to search for love when you are an ASD person. We are not wired to connect.
In fact, I think that romance is overrated and pointless. Most people are obsessed with it. I often see girls on Facebook posting selfies with romantic descriptions. I don't understand what's so great about this love thing.
An Aspie should pursue important and realistic objectives, not love.

Good for you! Women should NOT chase men. Men are the "hunters." When women chase; they get erased ~ (I just made that up).

ALL guys want someone they think they can't have, which makes me sick. Basically, I think it's best to wait for the right one to come along.

I don't agree that people with autism/Asperger's are not "wired" to connect.

There are difficulties in connecting--but many do find connections.

I don't blame you, I wouldn't want to chase guys either.
sometimes it just works out though. i met my husband years ago before i really understood who i was. i met him because i was lonely and posted a personal ad one night. he came across the ad while looking for apartments.
he is NT (and tbh i didn't know i was not NT until recently) i believe we complement each other. he likes to pursue some of his own interests. i like extra time alone at home. he is good in social scenarios. i am detail oriented and good at the nitty gritty stuff like paying bills.
i worry that if i am actually diagnosed with aspergers by the mental health clinic how it will affect us. he tolerates my depression, anxieties, OCD. he sees me as a stronger more capable person than i see myself. i wonder if his love will prove unconditional if faced with this new challenge while at the same time i feel like it will make me a stronger person because i will understand why i do the things i do.
so idk, don't lose hope. it may or may not happen. i thought i was going to live alone with a bunch of cats. never say never.