Hey there, good to meet you, Katia! I too am a lesbian and can definitely understand your pain when others criticize that aspect of you... I get that sometimes as well. It also upsets me deeply when people say I'm too attractive to be a lesbian. People can be dumb sometimes. I try to be forgiving.
I don't think that I have full-blown Asperger's, but I do have some Asperger's/OCD traits, and I also have struggled with depression. I'd love to talk with you about these things or any other things you'd like to talk about!