Good places to meet young women without a social circle?

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Exactly, and because you meet the same time week after week you don't need to go up to them and ask for a date. It works just as well to learn to know each others as part of the activities.



Disagree. Friends and relationships have nothing in common, so you learn nothing from friendships that you can use for relationships. It's just a total waste. Social skills also have no importance if you are neurodiverse looking for other neurodiverse people, as the skills needed for neurodiverse relationships are completely different from NT social skills.

1. If you take up a NEW activity, you meet NEW people. People you don't yet know are potential new friends and/or dates -- or people who might introduce you to new dates/friends.

Don't fake-like an activity, as all it'll do is introduce you to people with whom you have little in common. Surely there's something NEW you've wanted to do/learn that could be a venue for meeting friends/dates.

2. I've either been friends with or run in similar social circles to most of the men I've dated. I've agreed to go on dates with men because they were friends with or run in similar social circles with because of that -- they came with, in effect, references.

Basic social skills are transferable. My how to make friends skills transferred right on over to how to have a romantic relationship skills. What I'm willing to/not willing to put up with, returning calls/invitations, how not to freak out if I don't hear from them for a few days and that not hearing from someone is a loud/clear message, for starters.

Not necessarily. The stereotype about good dancers being good in bed isn't completely false. Many women believe that about men. I used to resent that stereotype. But after taking dance classes on and off since 2003, I went from resenting it to flat-out not wanting to date women who can't or don't like to dance. The ones who can't dance but want to learn are fine, though.

Also, partner dancing teaches you the concept of physical boundaries in a fun way, as well as the simple fact that not all touch has to be sexual, also in a fun way. I also use partner dancing to test how a woman responds to me. If she recoils at the simple act of me taking her by the hand, then she either has boundary issues or finds me disgusting. Neither is a good thing.

I know you won't like some of these answers but here they are.

1. Tinder. The advantage of this is that there are a ton of girls using it. The downside is that if you're not very attractive, you probably won't have much success and the girl you like probably has 10 other guys competing for her. Alternatively if you're too shy to talk to girls, you can get Bumble where it's just like Tinder but only the women have to initiate the message first. You should at least give one of these a try. They both require an Iphone with IOS with Bumble requiring IOS 8.

2. Online dating, long distance relationships. Wrong Planet isn't the place since there's hardly any girls here. I don't really know your age but if you're 24 and under, you can try more popular forums such as Social Anxiety Forums where there are a ton of girls there you can try to talk to. Aspergers and Social Anxiety have similarities so they're more likely to understand your quirks. The downside to online dating is that you're likely not going to see her in real life for a long time.

3. At work. But this really all depends on where you work.

4. School. Go off to college and go meet some beautiful young women.

5. Church? Assuming you're religious, you could meet some girls here. These girls arne't looking for 1-night stands usually.



There's plenty of places to meet women and you never know, some girl could come along that you really like and is compatible. And when she does come around, you have to be ready to make a move before some other guy does it. (And trust me, there will be other guys if she's attractive enough)

You can meet someone special, anywhere, at any time, but if you are actually looking for the best places to meet them, here are a couple ideas:

1. You could meet someone at your work, or through someone there. This might not always be the best idea, depending on the situation, but it is an option. My two cents on this: I wouldn't date someone I worked closely with, on a regular basis.

2. You could meet them where they work, or where they frequent (retail shop, restaurant, bank, laundromat, etc.).

3. Take your dog (if you have one) for a walk down the street.

4. Got any cute neighbors?

5. Make sure you are out doing things you honestly love doing. This is the best way to meet compatible people.

dancing is fine if you actually enjoy it. I don't. so lying to get a girl is bad. then faking an interst is ling. then faking liking dancing to get a girl is bad.

1. agree its too risky
2. women here say thats creepy.
3. what if you don't have one?
4. going assume they in a relationship most women are. especially in neighborhoods. plus for me I've learned not to interact with neighbors for the same reasons not to interact with coworkers.
5. this is hard when some people stuff is all introverted or male only activities.

2. It doesn't have to be creepy to meet someone where they work. Just don't start showing up out of the blue, hanging around too long, or doing other creepy things, and it will be fine.

3. It was just a suggestion for people that have one. You could always buy or borrow one.

4. Some women live by themselves. It's usually pretty easy to tell them apart. I agree, that neighbors are a lot like coworkers...don't date the ones that live real close by, or that you see every day. I'm talking down the block, or at the other end of the apartment complex here. Also, get to know some of the older people around you...they may have a daughter, or niece, or something.

its more of they saying approaching and asking a woman out or talking to her at her work is creepy, ie you see a girl who is pretty working at starbucks, in the movie the guy would walk up and ask for her number or give her his. but women on here said that asking women out in work/stores is creepy that women just want to be left alone to do what they doing.

how would you see or come in to contact with people down teh block o.O

ultimimly besides it apparenlty being creepy. its just too risky, you have no idea if she has a boyfriend, she'll be mad, he might hurt you , you don't know anything about them.

suppose an apartments where you share a laundry mat would be easier. I live in a house. people don't really mingle with each other in housing neighborhoods. they don't have block parties like in the movies/shows. they keep to themselves. besides giving nasty looks if you walk by their house and they are outside.

why would they introduce their daughter, or niece, or something to a worthless man. though i live in a richy middle class area in a rented subsidized house. the only neighbor I've talked to is upper middle class conservative tea party, hates welfare, ssi etc, oddly supports homeless camps o.O again perhaps a poor apartments would be a whole different situation. starting to wonder if perhaps oregon is just a s**thole for sh***y people.

You guys do realize that there are nerdy girls that go to things like Magic the Gathering and Pokemon tournaments, right? I'm sure there are less women there than dancing classes, however women who are into "nerdy things" are usually much more open and more likely to be neuro-diverse. I'm currently talking to a girl, but if I wasn't I'd look into that. I've never played trading cards, but it appeals to me a hell of a lot more than dancing. Also, if you're worried about running into a mean boyfriend, you could always grow some muscle.

1. It's only creepy, if they aren't into you.
2. By walking your dog.
3. The only way to know for sure if someone is single, is to ask. Just don't ask in front of her boyfriend.
4. A laundromat is a good idea.
5. You might think your worthless, but someone else might not.

1. and theres no way to know if they are, though most won't be. so if you have a 75% chance of being called creepy and being kicked out why risk it.
2. I don't like dogs. they have personal boundary issues and lick and slobbery. I'm a bit of a germophobe.
3. pretty sure it'll be creepy and social non accepted to go around asking women if they are single. this is why people instead ask them out and see how they respond. if not single they'll say something like , as just friends right. had that happen the one and only time I ever tried to ask a girl out in person. it took me 5 years to work up the courage to do that. my confidence with women has been super crushed since then from women defining me as worthless.
4. yes but at last I don't live in apartments with any.
5. I don't well I kinda don't I don't know anymore. the majority of women and some guys say I'm worthless. given that its seems illogical to view them as wrong and me right. I use to think I would make a good bf. but I was using a wrong evaluating system i guess