Histrionic Personality Disorder!?!?!

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I don't understand this condition but now I wonder anyone who dresses up in weird clothes or dress up like a hooker showing off their body, does that mean they have this disorder and they are doing it for attention?

I know as a kid I did things for attention but did that mean I had this disorder and then I grew out of it when I quit caring about not being paid attention to and when I decided I would rather not have attention and just be invisible? Can kids have it too?

The DSM-5 says age of onset is early adulthood.

Update: I am glad to say that it has been exactly one week of no contact on her part. She blocked me on Facebook.

I was reading how to get rid of someone with HPD and the resounding trend has been "shoot their egos to pieces as they are very fragile". I did indeed do that and it seems to have worked for now.

I understand that this is a horrible thing to do especially to an emotionally fragile girl - but at the same time I live a vibrant productive life and I cannot be putting up with... well I guess read the sample message I posted.

Thanks for all the feedback so far.

She fit every one of these symptoms... even the suicide one. I gave an example message that I got from her in my original post demonstrating some of those symptoms. It's not the only "novel" I received from her. The biggest symptom in my case was the constant need for reassurance. Every 5 days she would change her Facebook profile picture and then of course fish for compliments.

Example:

"You look so great in this picture!"

"Thanks, it's all in the sun plus my s**t ass phone"

"You still look great!"

Goodness I dislike the human condition...

My soon to be ex wife has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), which is another cluster B personality disorder. You'll find that a lot of us Aspies who have empathy become targets of narcissists and their abuse. After 7 years of putting up with abuse, I'm DONE! After a lot of self-discovery and retrospection, I've always attracted women like this. I didn't have any self-respect, but I didn't know that I didn't have any. If you have boundaries, they'll cross them... its what they do. The thing is, some narcissists are a lot more covert rather than overt and you'll never see it coming. Yeah, you may have "red flags" but once you've been "love bombed" by a narc, you'll gloss over those red flags. They are GREAT at leading you to believe that you're the love of their life, which is what most of us want. But to them, love is a transaction and always comes with strings attached. If you value your sanity (or at least how ever much of it you have), AVOID these people! DW, NO CONTACT was absolutely the right move! Unfortunately if you have kids with them you can't completely do that. In that case MINIMAL CONTACT is the best answer by keeping any and all communication about the child only and thats it. Sorry you went through this... I feel your pain!

Vanille - you are right. I learned my lesson and I back off a lot quicker now as soon as the red flags start popping up. Lack of experience dealing with anyone on the PD spectrum is what killed me here.

I have a question. Since you have BPD with HPD tendencies, would you mind explaining why these people seem to pour their hearts out to others, knowing full well that we can't do anything for them? See the example reply I posted - all I asked her was why she got so emotional over trivial things. I am thinking that the fact that people know about their problems gives them some sense of satisfaction or peace?

jdn74 - Likewise I am sorry that you had to go through this for 7 years... I only went through this for 4 months. "Love-bombed" - I like that - because that is pretty much what happened. Within 4 days of meeting me she was talking about how she has been dreaming at night that she was talking to me, among other overly heavy compliments. I knew something was not right but I was still drawn in.

No contact did not work for me. It just made her worse. The trick that seems to have worked getting her off (at least for now) was to predictably shoot her ego to pieces. 1. I would take exactly 4 days to reply to any text she sent me (they hate routine and predictability). 2. I took 4 days to reply because that way she would slowly get bored waiting for me. 3. In my replies I would be quite harsh, telling her that I have better things to do with my life than to waste my time talking to her, for example. I'm not happy treating girls this way but HPDs have fragile egos and it's one way to get rid of them (this goes both ways however as the s**t treatment did draw her in even more for a while).

More than possible. On a side note to my knowledge this girl was on every sort of forum or online outlet possible: Tinder, Cuddlr, CuddleUp, Pinterest, etc... she would routinely complain to me about how she has all these guys who she can't get rid of. I have a feeling it is actually the guys who can't get rid of her. To your point... these people seem to cruise the online world like no other.

I feel no relief knowing I got her to block me on FB the more I think about it... I may have been too aggressive with her - which goes in hand with what you are saying - these girls love the drama and attention no matter positive or negative. I have a good feeling I will be back here sooner or later with an update... a bad one