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15 Aug 2015, 3:36 am

hurtloam wrote:

Are men incapable of feeling attracted to a woman unless he thinks she's attracted to him?

Huh? Then I'd have never been attracted to any woman, which is far from true.

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15 Aug 2015, 4:34 am

Some guys just don't have a lot of experience I guess, even in their twenties, it's not uncommon. Even if they are attracted to someone, they don't know what to do with it so they just sit on it for a while, maybe waiting for what may seem to be a perfect opportunity to get to know someone. Usually it never happens and that's that. I've learned that the hard way a few times.

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15 Aug 2015, 4:51 am

Feyokien wrote:

yep yep.

fear of being creepy adds on to the stress of it too.

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15 Aug 2015, 7:00 am

Feyokien wrote:

Some guys just don't have a lot of experience I guess, even in their twenties, it's not uncommon.

Even in their twenties? Not everyone has any experience at all in their twenties. I spent mine waiting for a chance to start getting experience, and it never came.

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15 Aug 2015, 7:28 am

Feyokien wrote:

You shouldn't learn to avoid it, rather learn how it works and move further (which is NOT dating). In fact, a good idea is to forget absolutely everything about what NTs and culture have indoctrinated us with in the love area, and just learn how you work naturally from the scratch. That's how to get into fulfilling relationships as an ND person.

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15 Aug 2015, 7:36 am

Spiderpig wrote:

Feyokien wrote:

Some guys just don't have a lot of experience I guess, even in their twenties, it's not uncommon.

Even in their twenties? Not everyone has any experience at all in their twenties. I spent mine waiting for a chance to start getting experience, and it never came.

I think many have the required experience, even if they haven't dated or been in a real relationship. That's because the experience is not to copy NTs, but learn the natural way. I certainly gained my experience in high-school and college, but then I didn't get into any real relationship until 29.

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15 Aug 2015, 4:03 pm

Now I am curious how British hurtloam looks like.

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