Top 6 Reasons You Have No Friends.

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1. sometimes i feel like i have to constantly interact with someone when we are hanging out. and that means talking.

sight, hearing, touch, smell, taste.

the two primary senses to communicate with someone: sight and hearing.

but what is there to talk about? either the topic is so small it does not have to get talked about, or so large that talking is insufficient.

2. some precious lil "people" are so full of themselves, that they do not allow anyone to disagree. even with something completely vague, inconsequential, or subjective. even professional counselors do that sometimes. like one 35 year old counselor had the nerve to tell me that i am "important". oh yeah? so important she wouldn't lemmie disagree with her over what the definition of "smart" is? (her definition of "smart" was "not completely stupid". ok, that's so lame. what does the dictionary say? that's like saying that i am not strong, in that i can't lift a gallon of milk, but i am not completely weak, because i got out of the rack this morning. that's making the standard of intelligence so low that everyone fits it. so, if everyone fits it, what is so great about being "smart"? it's called dualism ).


3. precious lil "people" have the nerve to act like they successfully dragged my worthless corpse out of a burning building. precious lil "people" have the nerve to tell me "we care about you" or "i care about you". it's like wtf? and they do not treat me like they treat their friends. then when i do the slightest thing they do not like, they have the nerve to tell me "we would rather not have you doing yoga. it's distracting"



okay, that's all i am to you, a distraction?

how about we would rather not have you continue living. it's distracting?

because the past 34 years, at least two times, two separate parties found it distracting when i continue living. then what? (and then precious lil "people" have the nerve to tell me that "you don't care about anyone except yourself!"). because of course. if i were to have cared about someone else, then i would have committed suicide already . because i am nothing but a distraction.

4. precious lil "people" act like they are entitled to ask personal questions and make remarks about my physical appearance. when i do not do the same to them.

5. precious lil "people" cancel plans with me 2 hours a priori. sometimes they cancel plans more often than they keep them. and they cancel plans for the slightest reasons. like it was her dad's birthday and she had a lot of homework.

6. precious lil "people" expect me to change to suit their tastes but will not do vice versa.

what?

even in Basic Training. Boot Camp. army, navy, air force, marines, coast guard. united states west point academy. ROTC. OTC. whatever. recruits. poolees. Marines. have. rights. even drill sergeants can't just do whatever they want.

1. You come off as unfriendly and you're an as*hole to others.

i don't try to be an as*hole. i never ignore people and i'm polite when i can be but i think i'm rude without realizing it a lot.... i can get kinda grumpy and loud, but that's just because i got bad anxiety and i also can't control my voice volume. everyone thinks i'm pushy and mean but i don't understand what they're talking about.


2. You come off as strange and odd to others.

i laugh at people's jokes and i'm good at understanding humor and sarcasm but i get called aloof and eccentric and irritable a lot. no one shares my interests and i try not to talk about them but i get bored.... most of my friends say they're not neurotypical and act accepting, but make fun of me for my weird behaviors (like chewing on stuff and spacing out) and being irritable or because i'm not embarrassed about my interests.... i dress weird and talk weird but that's because i only do the stuff i wanna do, everyone else is just trying to look like something they're not, right? or is that in my head?


3. You hardly talk to anyone.

false. i'm actually pretty social for an introvert (i talk to my boyfriend every day and hang out with people on weekends) but most people bore me. i'm super picky about who i interact with, but once i've found someone who doesn't annoy me or make me uncomfortable, i'm very attentive and observant, a trait which overcomes my natural self centeredness by making people see that i'm at least intellectualy interested in them...


4. You never initiate to be friends.

my method of making friends is showing up to hangouts of people with similar interests and interacting with them until they notice me..... probably not the most assertive, but it usually works. my real problem is with keeping friends.


5. You simply haven't met the right people yet.

maybe, but it's hard when you're kind of a grumpy person outwardly who doesn't like revealing that you're not really that grumpy on the inside


6. You don't want any friends.

sometimes i wonder if i just subconsciously self sabotage all my attempts at friendship for this reason :V

1. Because they have certain subconscious or conscious expectations that I will do certain things and not do certain things. Because I have certain expectations too. And the expectations are often different

For example, the landlord had the nerve to tell me that the reason why I went to the bathroom at four am was to "wake everyone up". Instead of the reason being that I had to go to the bathroom. And he threatened to evict me. But the written contract did not specify going to the bathroom five times a day for five minutes each time



2. Because a lot of the time precious lil "people" make unfavorable and wrong assumption about me. And they will not be receptive to evidence indicating otherwise

And they act on those assumption

3. Because precious lil "people" are so judgmental and condescending and superficial. If they like something that I do or say they say "cool". If they do not like it they say "why". If they do not hear it they say "what". They act like everything has to be "cool" with them at all times

4. They give so many comments about what I do. It is like manipulation. Peer pressure. Comments about my haircut, blanket, clothes.

Positive judgments are just as judgmental as negative ones

5. Because they have the nerve to tell me "you should", and actike they are so wise and awesome

6. Because they do not like me. And I don't like them

1. No. People say I'm friendly and that I have a nice smile. I try to never hurt anybody's feelings.

2. People know I have intense interests, but they also know I am genuinely interested in other people.

3. That used to be true, but it was because I had very few opportunities. Now, I like to talk to people.

4. Generally true. I don't like to be to pushy. That turns people off.

5. That was true a long time ago, but now it's a different story.

6. Absolutely not true. I do want the friends I have to be true friends.

1. because some precious lil "people" are unwilling to socially interact with anyone different from them. And I am unusual in that ASD and Gender Identity Disorder and six out of ten personality disorders. Clinically diagnosed

2. Because, in their defense, it takes more energy to interact with someone so drastincally different, on a demeanor level. Fundamental level. There is no law that says that they have to treat me the way they treat their precious lil "friends"

3. Because some of them act like every time I do something they do not like, I invented the world's largest felony. They act like they have never done anything wrong before

4. Because I am afraid of social rejection


5. Because I am indecisive and cowardly



And I end up passive aggressively tolerating way too many things, for fear of social rejection. Then I regret that I tolerated it

6. Because when I had one precious lil "friend" in the past, it was like they had the monopoly. They had plenty of friends. They could go from 100 to 99 friends without undue difficulty. While going from 1 to zero friends is worse

Because I don't know how to do, or how it works.

Anyway they don't like me because I'm not like them.

I'm already happy if I can just not be rejected, accepted around at a distance. This already requires a lot of work for me.

1. Because almost everyone, at almost all times, talks too much and too loud

2. Because they are so judgmental and condescending

3. Because they act like whatever they want is the most important thing in the world. Even if what they want is a light

4. Because they act morally superior to me

5. Because they boss me around

6. Because they label everything they do not like as "rude,"

1. I would pretend I'm fixing a bayonet to a rifle, and charge at the students like I'm initiating a bayonet charge
2. I didn't know - and still don't know - the difference between consensual sex and forcible rape
3. I would curse out the teachers and students
4. I would masturbate in the boys restroom, and fantasize about the girls I remembered from elementary school.
5. I would draw gruesome and bloody pictures of Hand-to-hand combat, such as Pickett's Charge - Gettysburg, or the Bloody Angle - Spotsylvania CourtHouse.
6. I would jump straight into a romantic relationship with a woman without being her friend first

It's true, this is why I'm so lonely rn it physically hurts. It's my own fault.. I always got invited my entire life and always declined. I'm full or regrets.

1.People don't really tell me I'm rude or nothing, many people call me nice or sweet. My body language or some other thing that I really can't control must put people off. I think I am "too nice" as I suppress feelings and hide any of my autistic traits that would make someone uncomfortable or angry.(such as rocking.)

2.Yeah... I'm guilty of this.

3.I actually would prefer the company of another person but, throughout life I had to find out how to enjoy my interests by myself, so I just gave up on it. Anxiety and lack of social skills also cause me not to talk to anyone.

4.Kind of go hand-and-hand with number 3. I have no idea when you're suppose to ask for phone numbers or hangout. I also have no idea when to consider someone a friend.

5.I might have met the right people but look at number 3 and 4 to see why it didn't go anywhere.

6.I wish I could say "screw friends, I have video games!" But, loneliness and depression is still there.

1. Because precious lil "people" say and do whatever they want. Any response other than passive aggressive tolerance constitutes "you got mad"

2. Because they expect you to talk when they want, say what they want, and the correct volume

3. Because they gossip about you

4. Because they do no care, understand or believe what you say

5. Because they act like every time you do the slightest thing they do not like, it is as if you invented the world's worst felony. And they are perfect morally

6. Because they interrupt when you talk, but when they talk it's like everything that goes through their head is the latest greatest scientific discovery