What is your sexuality

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Edenthiel, I would rather have a poll system where people could add their own answers if they didn't find a choice to satisfy them. I have experienced websites with such systems however, I didn't see any options on here for something of the like.

Obviously this is an unscientific poll, but at the moment asexual is the second most represented identity behind culturally dominant heterosexual. This does not surprise me, I think there may be a correlation for higher prevalence of asexuality among autistics than the general population.

I myself am what I call pseudo-asexual, sex is not one of my interests but I'm not exactly turned off by it. I've had sex with a few women at their request, but it's kind of just meh for me, I'd rather talk about common interests than basically do a work out with another person. It's pleasurable, but a lot of other things are pleasurable to me too and they don't require a litany of illogical interactions and power games to experience. I'm also kind of meh about modern culture and perhaps that is involved, I get sick of seeing sex pumped everywhere as if it's the end all be all of life-- true, it's currently needed for procreation of the species, but it's not something that's required daily for every member of the species for the species to survive and yet that's how it's marketed. I've also been abused by both sexes in the past and that may play a subconscious role in my asexuality, but it's not something I've actively thought about in over a decade.

I do have romantic feelings though, I can become attached to people and it's a powerful feeling, but being meh about sex as a male is a nail in the coffin for that to happen since culture pumps virility as the lynch pin to male relationship value. I've gotten over it though and realize I'm in the wrong place and wrong time to fully experience my humanity, but such is the case for a lot of people.

I had to look this up to figure out what demisexual was. So let me get this straight if you have a very sexy women dancing naked infront of you, you wouldn't have any kind of...ahhh.... urge's?

I know that sometimes the crushing loneliness of never being able to get a date just completely unplugs all emotion.
I have to make my brain go flatline so I don't get horribly depressed because I will never get to actually have sex with that very sexy woman. If she's not a stripper who working people over for cash, then she's just being friendly, as soon as they talk to me they lose interest.

At least for me, it's the lack of success in the sex arena that has made me less than enthusiastic.

Strictly heterosexual!

Man, I that's hard to imagine that lack of a sexlife would lead to only feeling a sense of sexual attraction after an emotional connection. Does that mean that even things like porn aren't arousing for someone who is demisexual?

This is what I detest about so many sexual relationships...
The mind fracking that is part of...err...fracking...

I have reached the point where I can't tolerate that nonsense any longer...
Abstinence is the best option after the pros and cons are considered...
Well at this stage, at least...
And yes, the double entendre was intentional...

Things were simpler 50 years ago...
You had "AC"...
You had "DC"...
And you had "AC/DC"...

There are so many sexual permutations these days...
Where did all you sexual deviants/mutants come from...<joke>

Conclusion:
Sex is a fracking joke...

Well actually back then everything was marginalized between hetero and homo. And you simply called people who are nowadays "asexual" simply disinterested or unwilling. Nowadays you can come out without fear of social repercussions.

Crazyfool: of course I'd be aroused by a dancing naked woman. But I'm really into intellect. I once went wild over a woman talking economics.

I have a friend like that...
He has a thing for Madeleine Albright and he is only 44...
I had though he was odd, but after reading some of these posts I realise he is normal by comparison...
<still joking guys>...

I must say, this thread has been an eye opener for me...

Ok, I didn't mean anything by it, I was just honestly curious what being demisexual entailed. I think a lot of guys are turned on by intellectual women or at least turned off by the "ditzy valley girl" type, I know I can't stand that. I just didn't think they put a name on being attracted to a women's intellect. To me it's just another ingredient in the chemistry.

If someone stripped naked in front of me and started dancing I think I'd run in the opposite direction personally.

to me, yes and no.

I'd get these "urges" if a sexy woman danced for me alright, but i won't see a woman as "sexy" unless i was already emotionally involved with her.

Now, sure, i can see woman as being "pretty", "hot" and "attractive" as per societal standards, but those labels don't do anything to me without emotional attraction, and if i'm emotionally attracted, her body 'label' becomes a lot less important

I really am a Whirling Dervish. If a Tasmanian Devil Lady started flirting with me, I would find it hard to resist.

I tried to live a hetero lifestyle for 23 years (and had one daughter - yuck) but wound up sleeping on the lounge (by choice) for the last 7 years of it! She was a beautiful person (mentally) but the sex just creeped me out!

I'm Asexual! And now I'm free, have NOOOOO desire to go there EVER AGAIN!

I'm definitely a heterosexual male.