What is your sexuality

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I'm definitely a heterosexual male.

Leaving aside my rudeness for criticizing the poll the way I did (for which I am sorry), I realize I should not have placed demisexual as a sexuality. It's a preference, or perhaps a defense or adaptation. It's never been shown to have an innate, biological underpinning. My guess is that it will someday be placed into the "Nurture" category of causes.

Biologically speaking, people have male-attracted brains (& pheromone receptors, etc.), female-attracted ones, every blend of the two possible, or some or all attributes charting out as NULL. And that makes sense. As a species, we have sex-dimorphic parts and attributes that when grouped together roughly allow categorizing as "male" or "female" (with many blended variations). To posit a third sex, "trusted/connected" doesn't make sense in that specific context.

But I have to wonder if it isn't more of a modifier, as there are people who are attracted to men *and* are demi, and others who are attracted to women *and* are demi...etc.. Doesn't make demisexual any less real as a preference or exclusive attraction, just shows that our language is really sloppy (just like my original thread comment). Especially since the root, 'demi-' means half or partial.

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Bingo. Man, woman or blend. I can appreciate that they are attractive, but there's no 'urge' at all until I trust or have a close relationship with them. I have certainly said to myself, "Mmmm, I could so be attracted to her", but that's somehow different, like a piece is missing. And after a ton of introspection I don't think that it is - for me anyway - a matter of a defense, a protection against past harm, etc.. It could be, but that doesn't feel right if I'm honest with myself. Feels more like being sexually attracted to *us* rather than just their body. Physical intimacy is only one type of melding.

Bisexual, but with a heterosexual preference.

I do not claim myself as demisexual, not even sure what that is.

I describe myself as hopeless and completely given up.
Sometimes porn is a reminder of something I have been denied and just makes me depressed.
I can't speak for anyone else.

Sounds almost like...depression, maybe? I know when I've been depressed I has *zero* interest, no matter what the stimulus...

This would potentially create an enormous fidelity in a relationship if both parties were demisexual, I imagine...
Alas, I believe this sexual orientation would be exceedingly rare...and I wouldn't be one of them who leans this way...

I am overly affected by the visual component in the sexual mechanism/system...
Not my fault...
"I yam what I yam, says Popeye the sailor man"....

The correlation appears to be 'outside the norm' which probably includes as many hypersexuals as asexuals.
Another factor to consider is that identifying as asexual is Politically Correct on WP. Even to the extent of there being people who evangelise asexuality.

Terms like demisexual, greysexual and sapiosexual Most tend to work best as 'modifiers'. As does asexual in some contexts.

Missing from the original survey are
skoliosexual: which can mean either attraction to non binary gendered or trans gendered people.
polysexual: which is attraction to more than one, but not all, genders.

Sometimes 'bisexual' can be a synonym for 'pansexual' at other times it can equate to, some kind of, 'polysexual'.

AFAIK there is no term to indicate attraction only to cis gendered people, even though this self evidently exists.

I sort of feel the same (not completely, but fairly similar). I consider myself to be heterosexual- I do find myself sexually and romantically attracted to women, however like you I consider myself "permanently single". I don't feel the need to have connections with people, which means when I do have an attraction to someone it puts me in a confusing state, because I 'want' a connection but don't 'need' a connection. Maybe it's as you said, I've never "connected" with someone, only had strong attractions to them, which hasn't been returned.

I'm perfectly content spending time with myself and doing things alone (in fact I prefer it), so I tend to try not form attachments to people, knowing that it just adds an un-necessary desire.

"Sexuality on the autism spectrum

Autistic adults have, in general, differences in sexuality from the norm. Many more are asexual than in the average population. It is believed that there is a slightly higher pecentage of gays, lesbians, bisexual, and transgendered autistics than in the average population. "
http://autism-help.org/adults-aspergers-sexual.htm

No argument there from me...

Part of the reason for the high degree of asexualism in the autistic community seems to be our penchant/affinity with intellectualism at the expense of our reptilian/instinctual aspect...
Sex, after all is a rather animalistic function...

From personal experience, the intellect tends to become involuntarily dominant over the more primitive urges during physical coupling...

When I was much younger I tended to be asexual also and confused, btw, so I am talking from personal experience here...
And I still think the act of copulation extremely odd regarding penetration...

Neurotypicals, on the other hand have a greater connectedness with their animalistic/primitive nature...
Yay for them...

Not only do atypical brains tend to cluster, but AS people also tend to not have the almost innate ability to subvert and repress that which might make them less acceptable and popular. With the current changing social attitudes - especially among millennials and younger - that should actually be testable.



I wonder how often the cause might also be related to stimulus, sensory issues, OCD and the like? Most NT people seem to value spontaneity as it reflects (to them) a greater passion.

I'm hetero but I'm also sort of on the asexuality spectrum. I like sex but it just isn't that important to me & i don't get sexual attraction but I feel romantic attraction towards women.

May I ask a question about homosexuality?...

I didn't start the thread but it doesn't seem off-topic to me?

Straight female Asexual.

I'm attracted to guys but not bothered about intimacy.