"Define yourself by what you do, not by your autism" - Temple Grandin
Identity is complex, and I am not totally in agreement with TG's point of view if her statement is to be taken as an absolute, though I get the more subtle point that I think she was trying to make. We are our actions, our talents, our aptitudes, our achievements - and if we define ourselves by what we have not done, can't do, won't do, or are told we can't do - then we might as well tie chains around our ankles.
When I first came to WP, I thought that Aspergers was something that I "had", a limitation. But the more I learned here, (and at that time there seemed to be far more discussion about where the boundaries of being on the spectrum were) I came to see that though my talents and personality were so intricately entwined with, and laced together by the patterns of Aspergers, that this was my Self, and that Self was - like anyone else - a fascinating mixture.
Having reached that stage of realisation, it became very hurtful to read things written by those who wanted "a cure" for what was in fact my personality and talents. It is very hurtful to see your personality described as a "medical disorder". Still, I know that I live in a world that is largely ignorant of the lived experience of being an Aspergerian person, and I know that a lot of that ignorance has been internalised by (particularly young) people on the spectrum, and I understand how and why this happened; I am not a diagnosis; I am me. I made that transition on WP, and so it will always have a special place in my heart, because it gave me that gift of integration and greater self-awareness.