Do you come across differently than you think you do?

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People have an inconsistent perception about me. And so does when I see or hear myself.

When I thought I'm being an annoying child, they thought I'm an almighty iron lady. They end up seeing a steady pacing or that confident walk, hearing that monotonous voice that one thought that I'm all serious business. I'M NOT.

But sometimes when I thought I'm being an annoying child, I do sound and a look like one. Pitchy tone, skipping, odd speech and gait, sometimes that annoyed moody voice.

.. I don't know why...

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When I have heard my voice played back it does not sound like my voice and it sounds sort of weird and embarissingly different to how I think it sounds when I said it.

^ Yeah I've listened to myself recorded, talking, some years ago. Not fun. I must have sounded sound like a jerk or just plain 'snarky' for lack of better word..Of course I'm more mature now. ALso dialects. I speak pretty plain neutral English, but regional accents do creep in. Also my voice, when trying to sing, whatever the song was, it sounded like a fukked up David Bowie. LOL. Oh what i wouldn't give to sing or talk like Jim Morrison, (or look like him for that matter) that baritone Sinatra/Elvis like voice, that must be like the perfect voice to seduce a woman, right? I think so.

This is a topic that makes me crazy…. I end up feeling like ,I am always second guessing, myself .
Which made communicating even more difficult for me. I ended up almost stuttering trying to get my speech and mannerisms right . For the most part , I overcame some of this by being very direct in my speech . But that was taking away any of the sociability of the give and take of a smooth friendly conservation. Which I find myself trying to make my conversation more inclusive . Of others , unless I feel hostility from them. Then I might quit trying to be inclusive . Also noticed people like to feel good about themselves , even in smaller conversations . So, I try to include some soft compliment to them as part of my talking . It seems to make for smoother exchange of info.
And makes me feel less self conscious about how, I come off to others .

Your voice sounds different to you, than on a tape recorder. That is the same for everyone. Not just you

My voice sounds weak, weird, and hard to listen to. But on a tape recorder it sounds worse

The speaker only has one definition

All other definitions are miscommunications

I don't think so.

Jokes aside, the title makes me giggle a bit.

But I've realized that I come across differently than what I intend, without understanding why.
My self image is/was a social butterfly who is extremely good at putting words on my thoughts, yet I have no friends and everybody's always misunderstanding me.

/Mats

Used to be that historically , I would talk..too softy or even sound unsure of myself . Then I gradually learned to speak deliberately… and force more air across my vocal cords . Then as my speech cleared up . I was able to go back to speaking softly but distinctly . Still often if am too stressed my voice goes flat. Very monotone. Except unless, I am trying to greet someone initially . Before the stress had come .

Yes, i am almost sure i come across differently than i think i do. Would explain my whole life to be honest. And why i am so lonely. I do not try and be rude, quite the opposite. Somehow though, i just do not come across "right" enough for people to want to hang around with me on a regular basis.

I always thought I came across as nice, friendly and understanding. But apparently not. I used to know this girl at college and she came to me once and basically told me how her bf didn't really love her and he was dumping her. I thought I said all the right things and showed her I cared but she looked at me and said your a cold b***h. So since then I'm not sure if I come across the way I try to.

Agrees with above post. ….. +1

Another member at my clubhouse once told me that I'm not really British.

There was a time that I reminded my sister of Sgt. Schultz as a child.

A mentally challenged boy at my elementary school asked me if I was German one time.

I can't really say, I care that much, right now. *stares blankly into space*

In different situations, I've been told I come across as weird, rude, intense, intimidating, annoying, insensitive, too sensitive, arrogant...but I don't see myself as any of these things--except maybe weird.