Doing basic tasks

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I struggle with this stuff. At the moment I don't shop alone and I have a babysitter (Literally: http://spacedoutandsmiling.com/tips/how ... babysitter) who helps me to follow an evening routine.

Hopefully in the future I will find ways to do this stuff without so much support. But for now better to use support and keep my job / income than burn myself out again trying to do stuff I find so hard.

No one pays me to do my own shopping, someone will pay me to code. I Do the code and pay someone to do the shopping.

Thanks for the kind words today's been a great example. Productive day working on a project at the autism hub, she's due to arrive very soon and will then have a relaxed evening unwinding before bed. Rather than getting in a horrible muddle and forgetting to eat or wash while my brain dissolves in anxiety.

Our long term plan is for me to get comfortable enough with her that she can take me to the park. I love the park but can't go alone (big roads, anxiety, stranger danger etc) so that will be an awesome achievement. *blush*

I have a huge problem with procrastination. Normal household cleaning never gets done unless I know someone is coming to visit. Then I rush around trying to clean and tidy up. I guess I really should make a list of chores that need to be done regularly. Grocery shopping is hard because of the overwhelming choices, music playing, the commotion of other people, kids crying, etc. In other words sensory overload. Plus I live at 5,000 feet but the place to shop is at over 7,000 feet, so the decreased oxygen makes me feel dizzy. Truth be told, if I didn't have a husband who did the shopping, I'd probably just starve.

I've suffered with Executive Function Disorder (EFD) all my life. Now that I am older, it is made worse by my other health issues, which leave me too tired to do anything, even when I really want to do them. Some of my other health issues are lifelong co-morbids with my Asperger's, but others came along later on. My depression, acid stomach, IBS, and weak bladder control are lifelong. The hemerhoids, colonic inertia, sleep apnea, short sleep, bad knees, and bad back came along over time, as did my obesity, and my vascular problems. I have a number of other problems, but those are the main ones. The conditions that came along later on are mostly responsible for my chronic exhaustion. I have a fantasy of some day not being exhausted, and of being caught up on all of my chores and errands. Unfortunately, I will probably be dead long before that can happen.

Thank-you for bumping-up this discussion thread.

Just writing about our experiences, and boosting discussions on executive functioning in this forum can put us "ahead of the curve"; as writing about topics that are challenging to put to words, and difficult to discuss, and understand can "break the ice" so to speak!

From my own experience, it's easier to express myself in writing, than it is in trying to speak.

In addition to inheriting my mom's strong language skills, wisdom on the value of thoughtful news content, and instruction in writing, and communications from those awesome teachers in grammar school, and middle-school, becomes an advantage over a lifetime.

To practice a focus on putting difficult topics to words, and sharing these topics in this forum, with feedback can "in some small ways" begin curbing executive function difficulties.

Best,