AuroraBorealisGazer wrote:
Cafeaulait wrote:
I am just so weirded out by this. These guys are adults, they Both work fulltime jobs. They are perfectly capable of setting their alarms and waking up when they need to.
She is definitely babying them, but I would be more worried about what your boyfriend will be like living own his own/or with you. He may seem mature and capable from your perspective, because right now he still has her mothering him heavily; in her absence he may turn to you to do these things. This was my experience in my last relationship. When he no longer lived with her and we got a place, suddenly he was a helpless child. Hopefully, this won't be the case for your guy, but just be cautious.
Thank you for your advice. This really is what I am afraid of. He sees himself as a mature and capable person, but I notice little things in his behavior that make me think he avoids conflict or is afraid to stand up for what he really wants. For example, I will ask him what he wants to do next, and he will always say: 'whatever you want'. Cute answer, and I understand that he does this to please me, but that is also where the problem lies.
We were baking cookies this afternoon and his mom came up to him telling him how to take the cookies out of the oven. "Be careful, use both hands, hold it still.... now put it ever there". This is CRAZY imo (or am I the one that's crazy?).